Nice guys don't always finish last, but pushovers do. There's a big difference in what defines a nice man from one who lets a woman walk all over them. However, thanks to the amazing women who would rather date jerks and be caught up in relationship "excitement," aka drama, men are becoming desensitized to the notion that being a nice guy is even worth it.

Public service announcement: Nice guys are still "winning," and being a considerate kind man is still very much appreciated. However, the line between being a pushover and a nice guy is so thin that it's hard to even notice when it's crossed. So let us help you. For starters, a good rule of thumb to determine your status is by asking yourself: as much as I like/love this woman, am I putting her life before mine?

If the answer is yes - you're a pushover and you need to fall back quickly. Women will never be attracted to a spineless, passive man who lets a woman walk over all them, wavers on their decisions and opinions, and never takes charge. Pushovers are easy to spot, because usually outside the relationship they operate without a backbone and find it difficult to say "no." Despite a pushover's best intentions to be "nice," in order to get women to respect them they must learn to hone and keep the nice gestures and discard all the boring and predictable gestures that allow a woman to get her way - every time.

We recently discussed the 12 Craziest Types of Women and how to spot them. However, don't think that men are off the hook! Men are always so quick to label a woman cuckoo due to a woman's emotional nature, but men have tons of problems as well.

Men have issues that are equal -- if not worse than -- women because they are socialized to internalize their issues rather than deal with them. That means that entering a relationship with a man that is broken, hurt, weird or angry can be way more of a risk than dating a woman going through the same things. Women are taught to love and, if hurt, taught to love again. For men? Not so much.

Failure and success in love and relationships are to be expected, and are the reasons we all have "issues" in the first place. However, it's the way we deal with the issues that define our sanity.

The scary thing is that spotting a man with issues is a bit more difficult than vice versa because men know how to "play it cool." They try to not let their emotions get the best of them and are able to check themselves when they realize they're going off the deep end. However, their cool-as-a-cucumber demeanor weakens the more they begin to care. Once you spot a man with issues, men are great at "explaining" why they are like this... and women fall for it.

Don't let them fool you before you find yourself head over heels with a psycho! Here are 8 men you should watch out for.

Who was the idiot who said, "If you really love someone, you never let them go, no matter how hard it is?" What?!? What's sad is this statement is not only untrue but, to many people, operate as if it's law. Granted, everyone makes a mistake or two in relationships, but successful relationships are structured for learning from the mistakes, not continually making them.

When you really love someone and it gets to be more than you can bear, sometimes you have to let it go, so you don't begin to lose love for self. Nothing is worse than loving someone to the point where you begin to deal and accept things you never thought you would, or the things you don't really want to.

Yes, there's something to be said about two people working through problems in a relationship. However, you have to be keen to when the relationship, in general, is the problem and/or you're the only one trying to work it out. Here are 8 signs that it is probably the best time to break it off and exit stage left.

Ask a man to describe a woman, and often they'lll use some word synonymous with crazy. A lot of men tend to think of women as emotionally unstable creatures, extremely temperamental, overly dramatic, irrational, and more. But the worst is when a man says that a woman "has issues."

While that may be true from time to time, all women aren't moments away from being put in a straitjacket. In fact, many actions perceived as "emotional" or "crazy" are actually warranted and justified responses to a man's asinine actions.

For example, just because a women didn't give you her number when you tried to holler at her on the street doesn't mean she hates men. Women aren't deranged stalkers just because they ask the man they're dating why he's been MIA for five days. The woman that's the mother of your child isn't an insane baby mama just because it took child support for you to finally take care of your kid.

Women are socialized to handle emotions differently than men. For example, women are shown as little girls that crying is okay. However, when little boys cry, they are taught to "man up," making it hard for them as adults to decipher between a crazy woman and one who is simply going through it.

On the other hand, there are, in fact, women who hold on to emotional baggage until it festers into real deal issues. These women give emotionally stable women everywhere a bad rep. Here, we analyze 12 types of crazy women and teach you the difference between what's sane and what's a major red flag.

I recently went on a date with a fellow whom, for two months, had pulled every trick out of his hat until I finally agreed to meet him. Plans for a night in NYC filled with dinner and bowling seemed like a very promising first date. *Record scratch* However, it took a terrible turn when the same guy who picked me up in a 2010 Range Rover wearing Boss Black and smelling like Gucci asked me to foot the bill at the end of the night.

Whaaat? It wasn't like I didn't have it, but wasn't he was the one who had requested to take me out, not the other way around? What made matters worse was that the whole night, his braggadocio demeanor would have had anyone thinking he had more money than Bill Gates himself. So when I asked him why he felt it was okay for me to pick up the tab, his response - "I didn't think bowling would be $200" - was priceless.

It was his idea to go to the city, his idea to VIP bowl and his idea to drink like a fish, so I wasn't at all shocked by the price tag. I was shocked, however, that I had run into one of the most annoying type of guys - a fake baller.

Real ballers, a term usually reserved for a financially successful man, are known to be confident, swagglicious and, of course, financially secure. On the other hand, fake ballers are like a great knockoff Louis bag: The differences are subtle, but more times than not, they only have one, maybe two, of the three "baller" prerequisites and overcompensate for the lack of being financially secure with being flashy. The type of guy who always talks about the money he has, looks like a million bucks, but really doesn't have anything at all.

As much as you want to hate their relationship for all its ridiculousness, you can't help but love rapper T.I. and his wife, Tameka 'Tiny' Cottle, at the same time. The latest development in their hood-love fairy tale involves the incarcerated rapper writing his wife a love letter from Forrest City Federal prison, to be featured in the March issue of XXL magazine:

"In my eyes, she's the most beautiful woman inside and out. I wouldn't trade her for all the sun on the beach. As much as I've done wrong in life, I'm convinced that I must've done something right to deserve a woman as great as her. And I'll forever do all I can to continue to show my undying love and appreciation."

Tiny, who has proven over and over again what she is willing to do for love - whether it means being arrested with her hubby for drug charges or giving T.I. "a hand" during congenial (not conjugal) visits - is the ultimate ride-or-die chick.

But however questionable T.I. and Tiny's relationship may seem in the public eye, one thing is for sure: T.I. made a statement when it comes to expressing his love. Who writes a love letter anymore in our technologically-driven society, where texts, e-mails, and instant messages often reign as the only form of communication? T.I. writing a letter was more than endearing, and for once, he set great example.

Nominated for a Grammy in the Best R&B album category for his work 'The Love and War MasterPeace,' Raheem DeVaughn is no stranger to the discussion of love, sex and relationships. Although he didn't win the award last night, DeVaughn always wins with the ladies. The soulful crooner proved in his latest project that he not only knows how to make women feel good about themselves but also turn them on physically.

This Valentine's Day, DeVaughn, 35, insists that men remaster the craft of how to love. He sat down with BlackVoices to chat about his Valentine's experiences, romance and his favorite positions.

BlackVoices: Has Valentine's Day drastically changed for you from before you were a known R&B singer?
Raheem DeVaughn: I end up working or performing somewhere during Valentine's Day, so through my music I bring people together, become a part of other people's love day.

BV: Is there too much pressure put on men for V-Day?
RD: I wouldn't say men have more pressure than women just on Valentine's Day, but on Christmas, Thanksgiving, birthdays... pretty much throughout the year.

BV: Which do you think women find sexier: romance or right to the point? Why?
RD: Depends on the woman. I think, on Valentine's Day in particular, it's better to create the fantasy than to jump right in it. Let's say it's someone you've been dating for a minute -- the best thing is to create something memorable. Valentine's is not a quickie moment.

This month marks the second "anniversary" of the Chris Brown/ Rihanna love match, one of the most highly publicized celebrity domestic violence cases this country has witnessed.

Without recapping the already over-exhausted details, the Chrihanna scandal, with all the court cases, exclusive interviews, snot-filled performances, and diss songs, the big question still remains - what really did happen in that car to make Chris Brown snap?

Still one of the most buzzed-about topics in entertainment, the answer will probably remain a mystery. All we can say is that in love and relationships, an individual gradually learns what pushes the other person's buttons and, truth be told, women usually know how to push the buttons with even more expertise than men. This isn't to imply anything Rihanna may have (or have not) done or said justifies how violently Brown reacted, but to be clear, women do need to watch how often and how relentless they are when it when it comes to pushing a man's buttons. Any respectful, sound man would never lay their hands on a female, but let's be real - almost all men, especially those in love, at one point may have thought about it.

Before you go into an uproar, understand that love is a powerful emotion that at times can cloud logic and judgment. And, when it comes to women, we not only know how to keep an argument going, but we purposely won't let it end. Women are attentive and observant, and can be experts knowing just how and how long to push a man buttons.

And as funny as comedians like Chris Rock have made it sound, "If you never contemplated murder, you ain't been in love," Rock once said in his stand up "Never Scared," a man seeing red is no laughing matter. It would benefit many relationships to understand how to communicate when anger is present. Women need to know when enough is enough, and when it's time to regroup so that there's no irreversible damage done to the relationship.

It doesn't have to get there, if women in particular are made aware of the 12 buttons women that they should never-ever, ever, ever, push in a relationship - or even while ending one.

Halle Berry. So beautiful, so talented, so amazing, and still - so single. The Oscar-winning actress has become the poster child for fierce women everywhere who are extremely challenged when it comes to dating. Berry, 44, who has become known for her bad luck with men just as much as her movie roles, goes through the most turbulent times with the men folk.

The latest? Gabriel Aubrey, 34, her estranged boyfriend and father to her 2-year-old daughter Nahla. The pair are facing legal battles in the days ahead that root in a custody issues over their daugther. Recently the French-Canadian model has been held under heavy scrutiny since reports were released that he used racial slurs, including use of the "N" word in reference to Berry.

Can Halle ever catch a break? Her dating history includes domestic abuse, sex addiction, and now racial insensitivity and a paternity battle. Without question Ms. Berry continually gets dealt a bad hand, proving beauty and accomplishments have little to do with being successful with love. Many could even argue at this point Berry has every reason to feel scorned.

You know the type. A woman so bitter by the lemons the world has handed her that they've lost faith in the institution of love itself. Woman well past their mid-twenties that had to live through so many hard hitting lessons in love that they now know only how to function with trust issues, over-independence, and problems with self esteem. And, as much as Halle could fit the bill, we respect she hasn't become "a woman scorned."

It's been confirmed: R&B singer Monica Arnold has tied the knot with L.A. Laker Shannon Brown in a secret ceremony that possibly took place months ago. Rumors swirled that the pair had already jumped the broom this past November, when earlier this week Brown, 25, was captured on video discussing the Lakers win over the Knicks, wearing what appeared to be a wedding band. All the buzz and secrecy led Brown to finally admit on video to hiphoponstoptv.com that Monica, 30, is indeed his wife.