Match, Chemistry, Zoosk, Plenty of Fish, Ebony Friends, Date Hookup, Ok cupid, Perfect Match, Lava Life, Afro Introduction, JDate, Friend Finder, Christian Mingle, Interracial Singles, Dream Matches, Prime Singles, Veggie Date, East Meet West. If you're searching for love on the internet and you enter the term 'dating site' into your web browser, you're doomed to be glued to your chair until your brain melts and your ass feels like lead. The multitude of dating companies promising to end your quest for love, have become the strip malls of the information highway, churning out dates like fast food. "Let me cruise on down to soul singles for a #3 - a tall, sexy, handsome man with a PhD, the ability to express his feelings, and the gumption to only have eyes for me." Sound delicious?

With the copious choices available to find love, the plethora of options can be overwhelming as you surf millions of faces. Bingeing on profiles may induce numbness, pickiness, the 'what if there is someone better?' syndrome, and don't forget that the amount of time spent on your computer will make your friends question if you need a porn intervention. With so many choices it's not surprising people get stuck in singles-ville, hopping from one site to the next, becoming more obsessed with the hunt than with actually finding a mate.

I have met my fair share of singles whose disillusionment with online dating caused them to abandon the search all together, believing that it's become a meat market for hook ups. I have coached many singles who came in search of my services because their internet dates revealed people who should have been carted off to the cuckoos nest. All these run ins with dating services has painted a pretty clear picture of the ones that work, and the ones that should be left at the side of the curb.

Montana Fishburne, 19, daughter of actor Laurence Fishburne, has been racking up tabloid face time with her notorious turn as the next star to shamelessly self promote her sex tape in the hopes of reaching new heights of celebrity. This comes as no surprise, considering the fact that last year she was arrested on charges of prostitution, which resulted in two years probation and an order to no longer solicit acts of prostitution.

If you remove her last name, you might assume that Montana grew up in a rough neighborhood, with little opportunity for upward mobility, and parents who abandoned her to life on the streets. Nothing could be further from the truth. Her father is a Hollywood A-lister and her mother is a fitness professional. After high school, Montana had the opportunity to do anything with her life, so what drove her to decide a life of porn and prostitution was the best choice?

As we look at the ideals we instill in our children, it seems that what we claim to value and what we actually celebrate in society are not equal. We claim to value education, and yet our schools are underfunded, teachers are paid a pittance, and kids are pushed through the system without accountability of their knowledge and skills. What we do celebrate and teach our children to aspire to is the success of celebrity. Children are taught the value of want, desire, and possessions and are sent to the church of celebrity to fill their egos with substance. Fame has become the holy grail, the measure of life fulfillment and happiness, because once you have fame, everyone will love you.

Is it okay to get in touch with and communicate with (via Facebook, text or phone) an old college love (it's been over 25 years) and not share it with your spouse? What signal does this send to both the spouse and the old love, especially if you consider seeing your old love while you're on a business trip? If the spouse finds out, how do you get through it? The spouse has not met the old love and thinks this kind of behavior is cheating.

K.L.

My ex-fiance and I have been together for seven years. We've been through a lot; he helped me get through my cancer. I ended up moving out of the house because he told me he had no faith in me. I left because I did not feel complete in that relationship. Later on, we did plan to get ourselves together and get back together, but he ended up changing the plans. Now he is stressed out and started smoking and dating other people, but when we talk on the phone he tells me he loves me. I don't know if he is lying to get me back or what. From what I hear from his mother, he doesn't even visit her anymore or talk to her like he did when we were together. I was a positive influence in his life, and now he has gone back to his old habits. I feel bad for him. Should I continue to speak to him and be his friend or just let him move on?

Gerri