I have been a mother figure to a young woman my husband and I have known since she was 12. She is 20 now and my husband is 51. She has three children that are like grandkids to us. I found in my husbands e-mail pictures of her naked, and a picture of them hugged up which appears to be in a motel room. He said I was crazy and the naked pic was sent to him by mistake. I checked the e-mail history and it came from his iPhone. He stated to me that he sent the pics to her and told her that she sent them to him by mistake. They text each other constantly, claiming it means nothing. I am hurt so bad by this. I have been good to this girl and I didn't deserve this. My first reaction was to go to her father since she still lives at home down the street from us. My husband talked me out of it, claiming it would start an unnecessary mess. He said he has never cheated on me. We have been married since 1995. What do I do?

Vivian

My fiancée and I have 6 kids between us. Hers from a previous marriage are 18, 16, 8, and 6. I have an 11 and 10 year old boy and girl myself. We have lived together for the past year and are flourishing. I have been deployed in the Navy the past 5 months and am due to return in less than 45 days. I have maintained a job since I was 16, and have been in the military since I was 18. I am having a hard time with our 18 year old. He is a good kid but he is lost. He doesn't know what he wants and when I ask him if he needs any help I really get a blank "I don't know". When his mom and I decided to live together, she moved across the country. In moving he has had a hard time adjusting. He has obtained his high school diploma but cannot seem to figure out the next step. He isn't a party kid, and compared to me at his age he is very docile. His mom caters to him as if he is still a young boy, and I have a hard time with this. We share everything from finances to our home. He is currently not employed or enrolled in school. He seems to be content with living at home not doing anything. I want to talk to her about how I feel but I don't know how to bring it to her without hurting her or his feelings. Do you have any advice on how to open this dialogue??

I am getting married in five months, and I am getting nervous. My fiance and I have communication issues, and I don't have the energy to argue with him anymore. I am afraid that when we finally do get married it isn't going to last because of this deficit we have. The arguing starts when I approach him with an issue or I'm just telling him about my day. He doesn't seem interested at all. His tone is very nasty and his body language is saying just leave me alone. He said he wants it to work, but I don't think he wants to make changes. Every time he gets like this it ticks me off, and he doesn't get it. I am getting frustrated, and I just don't know what to do. My fiance carries a lot of anger inside and he never releases it. We have been together for six years, and I used to let it go, but now I'm tired of it. In addition, I think he cheated on me in this relationship, but there's no concrete evidence. I don't think he did it recently, but I feel he has. Can you give me some advice please?

Chanel

The smoke has cleared and laying in the rubble are the carcasses of Valentine's Days past. The relationships that blew up in the face of unmet expectations and lousy gifts lay strewn across the landscape of love. To all the single ladies -- chin up! Spring is around the corner, and that means it's time for 'Menu Dating!'

Tristan Coopersmith and Todd Johnson want to teach you how to Menu Date, 'the practice of dating in small bites, with great abundance, great purpose, and great variety...It is about tasting all that 'like' and 'love' have to offer in an effort to make a solid life-partner decision, rooted in meaningful experiences and subsequent confidence." The menu dating program demands that you date as many men as possible for the practical purpose of learning exactly who will fit perfectly. Likening the experience to trying on a pair of jeans, guys come in different sizes and styles, and what fits one woman may not fit another, so how can you possibly know what is right for you if you don't try them all on? Labeling the opposite sex as mandidates, you no longer approach each new date with the idea that they are the 'one', but rather see them as an opportunity to experience an interesting and new individual who will teach you something new about yourself and about men. In 'Menu Dating' you learn how to scout in every location possible and are taught the skills to attract and approach the cornucopia of men available. You also learn the different mandidate types that you should avoid and the pros and cons of dating them:

Love is in the air, and if you haven't made plans to sweep her off her feet, you better get cooking -- and I mean cooking! To all the men who complain that Valentine's day is just a hallmark holiday; to those who can't afford to splurge on an evening out, to those who don't believe in showing love with gifts, and to the ones who just hate sitting next to other cookie cutter couples in a crowded restaurant on a day that is supposed to celebrate your unique love, Eric S. Lee has the answer. Lee is a Colorado restauranteur and author of 'Sweeping Her Off Her Feet With Food: The Ultimate Guide to Romance and Seduction in the Kitchen.'

It's that time of the year, when men get together to scream and shout at the TV, while gorging themselves on chicken wings and fattening their beer guts. Sounds sexy doesn't it? Well it can be, if your as creative as the newly engaged Ms. Christie from New York, who decided to add a feminine touch to a day that has always been male dominated. The new party of the year is (drum roll please)... Super Bowl Engagement Party!

To all the women who don't know which teams are playing in the big game and to those who don't really care, there is a new way to make this day fun for everyone. Men love to watch other men run, throw, tackle, dodge and score, while women love to watch other women open gifts, compliment sparkly rings, plan weddings and score the love of their life. Why not combine the two best days of the year into one glorious fiesta?

I have a feeling women are already convinced, so let me appeal to the men out there. Imagine you show up at a Super Bowl party and instead of just chips and dip and a keg of beer, you find crab puff pastries and prosecco with raspberries. While you lounge on the couch in front of the big game, popping chocolate covered strawberries into your mouth, your lady love is holding court and enjoying being the center of attention. Half-time is no longer just a bathroom break, but a time to play games, score fun prizes, and celebrate the bride and groom to be. For a special treat that everyone will enjoy, try Russian Gummy shots:
2 bags of gummy bears (regular, not sour)
1 bottle of vodka
Shot glasses

Mix ingredients in a bowl, cover and let sit overnight. Spoon the inflated bears into shot glasses and serve as a yummy, gummy treat to toast your nuptials and celebrate your win! Here's to you, Ms. Christie, for realizing that being a partner means creating an experience that will be great for both you and your love. Happy Super Bowl Engagement Party!

I have been dating a man on and off for five and a half years. Whenever he seems to get close to me, he starts looking for another woman to date orhave sex with. We spent a wonderful weekend together, and he has called me several times a day for the last month. Then, all of a sudden, he says that I am trying to control him, and I need to back off. He said he would call me and that is the way it will be. I am having problems understanding this. Help!

-- Jett