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But let's stop all the politically correct crap and get to the point: why are chicks such haters?
No, really, please put your answers in the comments section 'cause I'm seriously asking. And before everyone gets up in arms about how anti-feminist I am or how the media loves to put us out there packaged nicely in hourly-slotted stereotypes, generalized for the world to see, please know that I am a black woman. I also watch said shows. So, I guess I'm not really a part of the solution, but I can't help myself and apparently neither can the millions of viewers who dutifully watch and later lend attention to any gossip pertaining to the show's "stars."
Perhaps it's the inner b**** that lies in every woman. The catty ability to snip and snide each other, from spreading gossip to stealing boyfriends. From eyeing unflattering outfits to calling out tacky tumbleweaves, we are the first to offer our very opinionated points of view. Maybe it's the result of years of fighting for our right to party in a society full of guest-list-only venues.
But women hate taking responsibility for their extra-hater activities, so instead of blaming us, I think we should blame chronic angry women like NeNe Leakes and Star Jones for ruining everything. They've taken hateration to such another level that even Donald Trump has decided to cash in and put them both on the next installment of 'Celebrity Apprentice'. The gossip rags and entertainment news shows have puffed up their beef to epic standards. Obama might even do a wine summit. It's bad, real bad.
Or maybe we just hate ourselves.
Yep, I said it. I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but most stereotypes have bits of truth in them. The hand waving, neck twisting, eye rolling, attitude-having black woman we find personified on such lovely gems like 'Real Housewives of Atlanta' stem reality. For whatever reason, we are really darn angry.
But the thing about being a black woman is... we're just so dope. I'm serious. We're warm shades of butterscotch and dark chocolate truffles. We come in petite and voluptuous sizes (and our men love it). We are rhythmed nations, gyrating in magical ways (hello, we invented the booty clap). We're smart as whips, funny as hell, and have single handedly carried the world on our shoulders for centuries.
So, yes, maybe we have a few gripes here and there, but the rest? It's all just nonsense crowding everyone's view, casting our own negative spotlight on our race and gender, yanking us back, reminding others that we're just crabs in a barrel.
So, in the words of another great reality television black chick, Babs (Season 2 of 'Making the Band'), "Let em fight!" Go on and let NeNe and Star battle it out. Gobble some popcorn as Omarosa and Wendy Williams gouge each other's eyes out. Go for it. But don't try to call yourself anything different, cause you're just like 'em and you do it too.
As a matter of fact, many of you are loading up your guns, preparing your ammo for the comments section, but it's okay. After all, I'm a black girl. I love beef, haters.
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By: T on 3/22/2012 11:36AM
Question was 'why are chicks such haters?'. I believe it may be because women are more familiar with criticism than praise, especially those who didn't have their father's in their lives or had critical parents. I'm not saying they don't (or didn't) get praise, I'm saying people who had a significant part in their lives may have dished out criticism which may have just been their way of trying to help them to improve or strengthen their character. Sometimes, it was a matter of I see where you are headed so let me tell you what I believe I should have done but believe you should do now that you have the chance to change. Many women took/take it as a personal attack when it wasn't always one (this kind of thing can have devastating effects on young girls/teens because in their mind, their differences are more pronounced than their similarities so it can take a long time for them to connect with others) and later on down the line they may dish out criticism as their way of saying 'this is my way of showing love and interest'. Many women are just playing out the same treatment they received (that has stuck) rather than try to make the effort to become more comfortable with receiving and dishing out praise. Truth be told, many women are much more critical of themselves than of others. The sad part is although many of us may have (had) critical elders in our lives, someway somehow, it may not have seemed like those elders took the critical treatment that was bestowed on them as a sign to disconnect from other women (considering the battles that were already going on) but instead, as a way to be strong, function in whatever type of environment they were in and bond with other women who experienced (or understand) criticism whether it's unwarranted, constructive, etc. In a sense, they made something positive out of the critical treatment they received and didn't lose track of what was going on within their own environments. They understood that it's not just about them. Today, there is a lot of criticism and it has become easier for women to purposely lose track of what is going on in their own environment. As long as women continue to believe that it is only about them and for them, whoever 'threatens' that belief is a target. Somehow, as women, we are missing our connection to human existence as if we are separate from all else.
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By: just-mocha on 2/22/2011 8:46PM
Me personally I cant stand those shows. I'm not much of a fan of Nick manaj or Lil kim. I can barely stand to watch oprah anymore. I can't stand drama and ignorance in the world I deal with daily why would I want to watch that crap on tv. I'm 21 and I hate it my mother is 43 and she cant wait to tune it to see who curses who out. Its annoying. Since when did ghetto loud shallow ignorant chicks become a staple for how "we" Want to live. If you ask me everybody that watches those shows needs to buy a clue and do something productive!
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