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A number of people argue that homosexual people are born gay, or become aware of their homosexuality at a young age. Despite this, a great deal of gay men go on to have normal heterosexual relationship in order to conceal the fact that they're not straight. These 'down low' brothers often go undetected by their partners, which raises the question, who is really to blame in these relationships? The deceptive man or the 'clueless' woman?
Should a woman be able to see the signs that her man is gay? Or can men really go about being gay and just not know it? Black Voices' love experts Rebecca Brody and Mason Jamal discuss this and more in the latest episode of 'The Ring.' Check it out!
Should a woman be able to see the signs that her man is gay? Or can men really go about being gay and just not know it? Black Voices' love experts Rebecca Brody and Mason Jamal discuss this and more in the latest episode of 'The Ring.' Check it out!
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By: BG on 10/15/2010 4:51PM
In my honest opinion being born gay is a BIOLOGICAL ERROR.
For gay people to think that they, and their disgusting gestures in the public will be an acceptable code of union in the STRAIGHT WORLD, is insane.
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By: kenneth on 10/16/2010 9:34AM
i dont think that God plans for any of his children to be gay that is a choice they have made in life
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By: patti777 on 10/16/2010 12:35PM
@BG I have had several gay men as friends and all of them have known that they were different from a very young age. Additionally, researchers have discovered several physical differences that support a biological origin to sexual orientation. I serve a God that did not make any mistakes, and Who loves all of His children equally. While the gay lifestyle is often plagued with a series of risky, uncommitted relationships, I believe that if they are nurtured properly and assured that they are loved and valued as human beings, that behavior will diminish. We need to understand better, and embrace gays as children of the same God that we claim to serve.
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By: autirose on 10/16/2010 6:52PM
I knew a guy & once I noticed him slidding his feet and swaying his arms as he was walking just as some females do. A few times I saw him with eyeliner on. Another, he was wearing a t'shirt with both his breast (chest) out. He talked about "anal sex". I'd question him, What was the difference between turned up one butt from another (male from female)? I wondered if he were "down low" or just a low down freak. Homosexuals would argue that they could take our men and we didn't believe them. Obviously, they knew what we did not.
I knew when my lover would cheat. I was very young when I first married. My husband cheated. I walked inro the room and saw him reflecting. He had a grin and eyes closed, his head tilted back. He was deep into it. My suspicion kicked in. I planned my approach/questioning. I'd notice the dewy texture of his skin; the after glow, dreamy look, and smile told all. After conversating for awhile and baiting him, he admitted. We are divorced. We were young and didn't really want to be married anyway.
A friend told me she noticed her lover didn't automatically fall into position, alert. Also he'd fall asleep when usually he had a strong appetite for sex. Then she overheard a phone conversation. She said whe walked up behind him and heard him say in an awkward tone "I love you too." She knew. Women always know. We are astute. She may deny her own insight, at the expense of lowering her selfworth. I say get over it, move on, next.
But, what about the "biological, psychological, metaphysical and sociological" aspects of being homosexual? I think the damnation come in with the deadly sin, LUST. Staight up, hardcore men who lust after other men. These so-called heterosexuals are taking advantage of these efeminine men who may have self esteem issues in order to gratify their selfish needs. Gay men may do stuff to them that women won't, like "toss their nasty salads". Selfish, low down disease carrying freaks, they destroy lives, even their children who may lose the family bonds, to sickness, death or divorce.
In my opinion the damnation comes in "man burning in his lust for another man and sexing another man as a woman". First, purpose of sex is the establishment of the spiritual bond between husband and wife; secondly, for procreation. Be fruitful and multiply is the commandment--bring forth a new soul, God-given life, a baby. All other is LUST and lust is one of the seven deadly sin. To waste your life giving fluid, your "seed" is a sin, death.
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By: Tee on 10/17/2010 9:25PM
there is no such thing being born gay, thats just like saying God is confused didnt know whether he wanted to make you a male or female and God is not the author of confusion which is what that would be straight up confusion so people that says that are a liar and
god does not make mistakes,
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By: john on 10/19/2010 6:31PM
You're stupid!
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By: Eclectic Thinker on 10/19/2010 11:01PM
BG, if you think being born gay is a biological error, do you also think that all children who are not born physically and mentally "NORMAL", are also biological errors? BG, if you believe in God, then explain to me why God would cause or allow people to be born this way? And, since people come into the world in all shapes, sizes and physical and mental conditions, should they not still have the right to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness?? Think BG! THINK!!!
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By: Theresa K on 10/15/2010 4:54PM
I agree with Mason on this. The biggest threat to women being exposed to HIV and other STDs is straight men who sleep around and either knowingly or unknowingly spread the virus while having unprotected sex.
But on the other side of the coin, I will say that society has pushed men into being downlow. Especially in the black community. Think about it--how many of us have heard someone in out family say that if their child was gay that they would beat it out of them or they would be disowned? Who wants to be alienated by their family? So, instead of living life as their true selves they feel compelled to get married, have kids, be the American ideal or Christian ideal of a man. Now, please, don't get me wrong--I am not excusing it. But we do have to take ownership of potential responsibility of this lifestyle. Also, another thing forcing them into down low is being beat up or ridiculed for being gay. I don't agree with it because Lord knows I don't want to run up on one in my life, but it is certainly a reality.
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By: clarke on 10/16/2010 10:51AM
SO YOU DON'T SEE THE BIGGEST THREAT BEING WOMEN WHO HAVE UNPROTECTED SEX WITH MEN THEY HARDLY KNOW OR HAVEN'T KNOW LONG ENOUGH TO LEAVE THEIR PET WITH MUCH LESS SLEEP WITH. YOUR VIEW TO ME Theresa SOUNDS LIKE CLASSIC SCAPEGOATING. WHY AREN'T ALL ADULTS RESPONIBLE FOR THEIR BEHAVIOR? AS LONG AS WOMEN TAKE THIS "I'M A VICTIM" POSITION INSTEAD OF TAKING CHARGE OF THEIR OWN BEHAVIOR THAT HELPS PERPETUATE THIS SITUATION NOTHING IS GOING TO CHANGE.
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By: Tanya PK on 10/20/2010 2:29PM
The down-low is a cop out. Be gay OPENLY if you are gay. This doesn't mean paint a sign and stand on the freeway overpass, but don't get involved in deceptive relationships with women when you desire to be with a man. It NEVER ends well even when HIV is not a factor. And to that point about "beating the gay" out of a kid - people who think like that are mentally and emotionally retarded. You can't beat anything OUT of someone, but you can certainly beat further emotional damage into them. I would never deny what I have made - regardless. I've played out the scenario in my mind about the many things my young sons could become and gay is towards the bottom of my list of "things to worry about".
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