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Be Yourself AND Don't Be Shy...(-: post at 1:00

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Well, in all truth the best advice that black men need to both know, and exercise today as it relates to the dating scene is: Number one: Don't date black women! That's, if you're looking for a sincere loving, and committed relationship without all the usual attitude. And, number two: this is by far the most important element. Black women are the "highest risk " group, and continue to be the highest risk group in the United States "today" for women of all races regarding HIV/AIDS! Black women also have the "highest statistics" for STD's such as gonorrhea, syphilis , herpes, and chlamydia. With staggering numbers exceeding all other races of women as well. Go check the "Centers for Disease Control" web site yourselves to see the fact sheets. Like they used to say on that old TV series Hill Street Blues" "Be careful out there!"

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Nik, don't take ignorance personally. Your decision to be celibate should be your own. Not a result of some stupid comment. These Black Women can't get the disease on their own, it had to come from a black man. Now look at that, that comment was even dumber than the later. Now, the lack of protection, ie condoms, and abstince (which is the only prevention of STD'S) is the true problem. It is all of our responsibility to be educated and educate others properly to help elimate this problem. And most of all TEST,TEST,and then TEST. Hence forth stop getting into relationships with people you don't know. And definately don't do it if you don't Test you and your partner. The mind is a terrible thing to waste. (ERIC) BE BLESSED Mocha!

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Mocha,

First let me tell you that I'm sure that some black men have in fact affected black women with aids, that's a very true statement. And, also some black women have also affected black with aids as well. But, if you know the real facts which it's apparent that you don't, then you'll clearly see that black women also have the majority of "ALL" reported cases for HIV/AIDS not only for women of "all" races in the US today, but also for all men of all races as well! Black women still believe that lie about getting aids from only Black men on the DL, but the CDC "Centers for Disease Control" disproved that as a fact! Perhaps, you need to read more to bring yourself up to speed with reality, along with the valid factual information, and stop continuing to only lie to yourself and others, and stop living in a state of denial. Here's a few more facts that you obviously don't know either! Fifty percent of black women that have aids...and die contract it as a direct result of "intravenous drug usage"..that's a fact! Why are all these BW using all these drugs? Perhaps, you should be asking yourself that question ...first! Aids is also the "number one" killer of black women between the ages of 25 - 34, and that's a fact too! Both BM and BW who are heterosexuals who are continuing to have unprotected sex with multiple sex partners is the primary cause for the continuing spread of HIV/AIDS in the African American community at large that's currently at "epidemic" proportions! African Americans are directly responsible for 51% of all reported HIV/AIDS cases in the US, and we're only 13% of the US population! Black women have 66% of all reported cases of HIV/AIDS for women, with 2 out of every 3 cases for all races of women being African American women! Black men are at 41% and white men are at 40%. But, black men are the only men being blamed! I haven't heard one black woman ...even those that date white men about them being infected with HIV/AIDS from them ...white men! Why? When the data clearly shows that there's only one single percentage separating them from black men! Which is considered to be a statistical dead heat! Why are those black women that have chosen to date IR giving white men a pass? And also BW are infecting white men as well too! Lastly, Mocha....the number one issue with the continuing spread of HIV/IDS in the African American community is the "black women's denial"! There are several clinical studies available that clearly show that the "majority" of black women "DON'T" embrace safe sex practices! That's also a fact! It's easy to only point the finger and blame others, while at the very same time deny any accountability, or complicity for your own continuing behaviors which are killing more black women than anyone! In reality "DENIAL" kills more black women than the disease itself! Try checking your facts, before you come on here blaming black men as per usual, and also try taking a long hard look in the mirror at yourselves as well as black women, and your attitudes and behavior as it applies to practicing "safe sex". As, a result of BW being the highest risk group, and with the numbers "still" climbing now more and more white men are avoiding them (BW) as well. Sorry, but no one wants a death sentence over a night of unbridled passions! It's just simply not worth the risk anymore! As, for testing here's another fact that you may find somewhat interesting. Most African Americans aren't getting tested, even though their's an ongoing campaign to do that. Most aren't getting tested because of the fear that they already are HIV/AIDS positive. So, that message is only falling on "deaf ears"! So, if someone tells you that it's okay to have intimate relations with them, because they got themselves tested, my advice to you is to still regardless embrace safe sex practices...it can save your life! The American Medical Association projects that if there were mandated national testing for African Americans then the cases for HIV/AIDS for blacks would jump from it's present number of 51% to the mid 70's! Most blacks will "NEVER" submit to testing!

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Even I am modern Man of this modern word.I am going for date with my girlfriends in Coming Sunday. But it is my first date so therefor I am little-bit frustrated, what to do.I hope you will give me some good tips for my fist date.
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To Nik,

I really do appreciate reading your comments here...particularly in this site! I emphasize the "this site" because we as a people are simply not willing to address these issues surrounding STD's, or HIV/AIDS in our communities. It's as though nothing's ever being said, or that all the years of both scientific clinical research is meaningless. But, sadly the facts remain despite many black people's unwillingness to embrace the real truths, especially black women.Truths, that for the most part are directed at our continuing attitudes, and behaviors. It's not just a coincidence that black people all around the globe ...just happen to be the primary victims of these kinds of diseases! It's a continual pattern of behavior. For years Africa has been, and still is the focal point for sexually transmitted diseases, and it sadly continues to be number one. Now, here in America where medical science is at it's cutting edge we again find black folks at the epic center of sexually transmitted diseases, and also continuing to only turn a blind eye while at the same time leading the pack for all races in transmission and dying. Every "19 seconds' an African American contracts HIV/AIDS here in the US! Why aren't other races subject to the same issues? That's unfortunately a very easy question to answer...black folks lack of accountability, complicity, and personal responsibility. Those attitudes are the very same ones that directly attribute to also why we as a people being only 13% of the US population continue to have the most OOW babies at over 70%, highest unemployment numbers, highest incarceration numbers for black males, and here's a statistic that most blacks aren't aware of, and also one that black women "never" openly discuss. That's the fact that for all women in US prisons "57%"...yes 57% are black women! Now, perhaps is far easier to see why their sons, and grandsons end up behind bars as well. Reminds, me of that old saying my grandmother used to say about, "the apple not falling too far from the tree!". If, black women are going to prison in such numbers why then is anyone in their right minds not surprised to see all these black men doing the very same? Believe, me neither my comments, nor yours will make any difference, or have any impact on the readership in Black Voices, because most black people just simply don't care! Because, it's always someone else's issue, or problem, or others are always the cause...never ourselves, and. that only continues to reflect our immaturity as a people, along with our general unwillingness to continue to embrace the very same attitudes, and behaviors that are only destructive. Sadly, our women don't know thing one about being ladies, and are only a growing embarrassment in this HIV/AIDS scenario. Why do Asian women only have 1% of all reported HIV/AIDS cases? And, why do Latinas, and white women also have 'substantially' lower numbers than do black women as well? Black women's HIV/AIDS numbers are three time that of white women's! So, please someone, nay anyone tell me why I'd want to be with a black women? The answer again is a simple one..."safe sex" practices! Do you realize that the chances of contracting HIV/AIDS from an African American woman is "20" times greater than from a white woman! Much more from a Latina, or an Asian! Black women are stuck in their sick, sad little world of denial, and as a result only continue to die in far greater numbers. They obviously don't even have enough concern for themselves to address this ongoing epidemic. Their predictable "tired' response is to only blame black men. This issue is paramount to "modern dating", so why isn't Black Voices addressing it as such? People actually come here from all over the world now just to study, and conduct research on why black women in the US are, and continue to be the most HIV/AIDS affected group of women in all of the industrial nations in the world! It's certainly not because of BM on the DL, because as I stated previously they only account for "2%" of all the cases as it pertains to affecting black women with HIV/IDS! Yes, only 2%! That's a proven, accepted clinical fact! My brothers if you want to live a long healthy life, then please by all means "avoid" black women. he world community already knows that reality, perhaps you need to also be aware of that fact/reality as well!

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Good tips. Here are some on how not to approach a woman.

http://singleindependentsistah.wordpress.com/2010/01/29/five-pick-ups-men-should-avoid/

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