
Batman had one named Robin, and apparently so does NBA player LeBron James. He calls his Savannah. Savannah Brinson, that is -- longtime girlfriend and mother of his two sons.
James, 25, has the Internet (mainly women) in an uproar because of a recent interview in Harper's Bazaar September issue. In it, James called his high school sweetheart his "sidekick."
"A person like myself always needs a great sidekick," James told the magazine. "A person you can rely on no matter the circumstances. And she's that. She's got my back, and I love her for that."
You could hear the gasp from women everywhere as the the interview snippet posted around the 'net. Heads swayed, eyes rolled and fingers snapped as women typed in comment sections exactly how they felt about James calling his main squeeze his sidekick.
I laughed as so many readers got upset over something so trivial. Reading the entire interview, it's apparent that despite his word choice, the couple has a comfortable and healthy relationship. I'm sure Brinson, 24, and James aren't losing any sleep over it. Too many people project their own feelings about their own dysfunctional relationships on the celebrities they think they know. Just because your man calls you "strawberry seed" or "butterfly boo boo" doesn't mean LeBron has to, or that Savannah even wants him to.
In hopes of preserving a level of serenity and peace, here's a list of pet names far worse than "sidekick" that men should avoid. Some men use these nicknames as terms of endearment, but after the "Sidekick Scandal," I warn men to think twice, and I would of hated to see what would of happened if James used any of these words. *Gasp*
Baby Girl
Some women get very agitated when called this, as if their maturity comes into question when it's used. Fellas, watch it. If your woman gives off an air of self-righteousness, snobbishness or has a big ego, avoid this name. Imagine the response if said to the wrong woman: "Un uh, do I look like your daughter? I'm a grown woman, not a little girl..." Oh boy.
Old Lady
On the other end of the spectrum, this is a name that may make a woman think you've become bored with her. Seriously, it's rarely used these days, but calling any woman this no matter how old or young she is a big no-no.
Shawty
Southern rappers have tried and tried to make this name cool, but calling the woman you love this is pretty disrespectful. Because it's so generally used, it has become synonymous with chick or girl, and shawty carries the denotation of a play thing versus the real thing.
My Bi*ch
This might be a term of endearment in more 'hood circles, but no self-respecting woman wants to be equated to a female dog. Yes, Peaches and Alize might love when you call them this, but 9 out of 10 times this name is derogatory, and will NOT work.
Homie or Friend
Calling a woman you are seriously dealing with either one of these terms along with any of these derivations -- buddy, pal, etc -- might get you slapped.
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By: dana on 8/13/2010 3:29PM
Where else is this black girl going to live the way she does. I bet she doesn't care if Lebron calls her his HO cause she would have never lived this life had she not trapped him with 2 kids. Wait till he's in Miami a little longer and he realizes he needs to turn to the trophies, and HE WILL.
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By: carla ford on 8/13/2010 4:11PM
I agree
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By: Mrs. DMS on 8/13/2010 7:17PM
Totally agree, sadly, he holds the purse strings and if she feels being called a sidekick is worth her lifestyle and bump her dignity, that's on her. Who are we to judge that? LeBron did however say he loved her for being there. I actually don't think he meant it disrespectfully, but hey, these females already KNOW what their relationship IS and ISN'T, truly. I can't stand Ms.Lady. The little gangsta dudes around here love to say that to get your attention. "Eh, Ms. Lady." Ugh!
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By: Stephanie on 8/14/2010 2:25PM
Dana-
For you to even think this way is (in my opinion) sad. I really think that we live in a day where anything we as young black girls can do whatever we put our mind to... so okay she has kids with a ball player. She wouldn't be living that life by doing anything else? Lawyer? Doctor? Model? Own business? Anything that girl put he rmind to if she really wanted to do it would be possible. To say that she wouldn't care if she was called a Ho is throwing us back to a sad, low point in time. At the end of the day money means nothing and internal happiness is everything. We can't surmise everything based of their lifestyle and a name that he has called her. Must we be so serious? So mean?
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By: MS PEGGY on 8/15/2010 10:01AM
LeBron is young and was born in the 80s not the 60s when white and high yellow women were off limits to dark complexioned men. Therefore, I hope he doesn't have that mentality. Chad Ochacinco suffers with it but since LeBron is with his high school sweetheart maybe, just maybe he's satisfied. But then, he is a man-child and may just try other flavors out of sheer curiosity and one of them will trap him by getting knocked up.
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By: Charles on 8/15/2010 5:07PM
I was coming to say that, she was the last one in the room to object .now he needs to keep her away from the ones who did .dont let her get contaminated
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By: jay on 8/18/2010 9:10PM
SHE'S A TROPHY YOU FREAK'N IDIOT WHAT YOU THINK BLACK WOMEN AREN'T BEAUTIFUL ENOUGH, YOU FIT RIGHT IN BRAINWASHED FOOL. AND DOESNT THE AUTHOR OF THIS LAME ASS ARTICLE HAVE ANYTHING BETTER TO TALK ABOUT. TRYING TO CREATE BS IN ANOTHER BLACK HOUSEHOLD. WE DESTROY OURSELVES AND DONT EVEN KNOW IT. THAT BITCH THAT WROTE THE ARTICLE NEEDS TO FOCUSE ON REAL ISSUES IN OUR COMMUNITY. IF SHE WASNT BLACK THEIR YOU'D BE BITCHN ABOUT THAT. WE CAN ALWAYS FIND FLAWS IN EACH OTHER.THOSE OTHER FOLKS ARE DOING IT ALREADY LETS NOT ADD ON IDIOT!!!!
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By: Michelle on 8/15/2010 12:09PM
When it comes to the "side-kick" comment, I think it is a case of a person not choosing an appropriate term.
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By: Mpinga on 8/13/2010 7:31PM
Wow, the comments before mine are crazy. What do you mean she wouldn't care if he called her his HO? Are you serious, do you know this woman? Why would you say that about someone you don't know? Why do you think she would put up with being called a ho, and what makes you think she was ok with being called his sidekick? For all we know she could've been upset about it...It's certainly not something to walk out of a relationship for...rich man or not. You people kill me with the judgments and comments as if they are the truth. Don't act like she is the avergae gold digger, this man was her high school sweetheart....smh at all you hatin, lonely ass females.
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By: Stephanie on 8/14/2010 2:17PM
I completely agree with you. Seriously how can be so opinionated a/b one little pet name? One little comment. We ALL have different dynamics in our relationships. What may work for me and my man may not work for you and yours. At the end of the day if he/she are happy then let them call each other what they will.
Stephanie
@stephaniedawkin
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