
The New York Times recently used new data indicating increased rates in interracial marriages to highlight the "plight" of single black women who can't find a good man.
In a nutshell, the Pew Research Center reports that 13 percent of Black men had a non-black spouse, compared to 6 percent of Black women. And in 2008, there was a significant increase in the number of Black men who married women who were not black.
The Times article's headline, "Black Women See Fewer Black Men at the Altar," makes it seem like the piece was blaming black female singlehood on men who choose to marry non-black women? Supposedly, black women don't make it to the altar because their men have already jumped the broom with Becky or Suzy.
Blaming the swirl action for single black women just isn't cutting it. Though more than ten percent of black men chose to marry a non-black woman, it clearly doesn't account for the majority. What about the 87 percent of black men who do marry black women? If I've got my math straight, 87 is greater than 13, so more black men have embraced their women than the ones who haven't.
This article reminds me of the recent 'Nightline' special, in which black men and women had a "face off." Fingers were pointed at each gender as they tried to explain away why many successful black women end up without a spouses.
We don't know the reason many black women will remain unmarried but, any argument or dialogue that has a tone of pitting black women and men (or black women and non-black women) against one another can be dangerous and create further rifts between us.
The Pew study reports interracial marriage between all groups is at a record high. 9 percent of Whites, 26 percent of Hispanics and 31 percent of Asians married a person of a different race in 2008.
Clearly, interracial marriage isn't something that's limited to black folks. Even more interesting was that Asians and Hispanics married interracially at even higher rates.
Where's the discussion or the 'Nightline' town hall meetings on the nearly half of American-born Asians who marry non-Asians?
Also, what we define as "swirl" action (i.e. a black and white couple) isn't as prevalent as we may have thought or been lead to believe. Though interracial marriage is on the rise, the pairing of a black and white mate is the least common combo, according to the study.
Though the Pew Research Center presents interesting data that reflects the changing trends in marriage, it's hard not to question how and why the Times chose to peg the article in such a way and why the impact of interracial relationships on other groups isn't looked at as well.
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Interracial Celebrity Couples
Sanaa Lathan and Steven Rifkund
This acting beauty and her music executive man have been dating on the low for months and rumor has it they recently became engaged.
Garcelle Beauvais and Mike Nilon
Actresss Garcelle Beauvais married CAA agent Mike Nilon in 2001. But the marriage might be on the rocks following reports that Beauvais caught Nilon cheating.
Zoe Saldana and Keith Britton
Ms. Saldana's been dating this fellow actor for 10 years -- long before she became a megastar with blockbuster hits like 'Star Trek XI' and 'Avatar.'
Iman and David Bowie
Somalian supermodel Iman and rock luminary David Bowie have been married 19 years and have one daughter, Alexandria Zahra -- they make an amazing power couple.
Halle Berry and Gabriel Aubry
Halle Berry and French-Canadian supermodel Gabriel Aubry are parents to Nahla Ariela, born March 16, 2008. They announced their split in May of 2010.
Paula Patton and Robin Thicke
This sexy couple met when he was 14 years old at a teen club in Los Angeles. They lived together for 11 years before marrying in 2005. Patton was featured nude on his 'Beautiful Girl' album and appears in two of his videos.
George Lucas and Mellody Hobson
Super producer George Lucas has since the 2007 Academy Awards, been out and about with Mellody Hobson, president of Ariel Capital Management, a billion dollar Chicago based investment fund.
Alfre Woodard and Roderick Spencer
Woodard's been married to her writer hubby for 27 years. They have two children, Mavis and Duncan.
Aisha Tyler and Jeff Tietjens
Aisha and Jeff met as undergrads at Dartmouth College and wed in 1992. Tietjens, an attorney, and actress Tyler both love each other and beer -- they're avid home brewers.
Thandie Newton and Ol Parker
Bi-racial British actress Thandie Newton married her writer/director/producer husband in 1998. The pair have two daughters, Ripley and Nico.


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By: Janet Mack on 6/07/2010 10:12AM
Yeah! Why aren't black men talking about how Gary Coleman's white wife killed him? She pulled the plug after just one day! I have never seen anyone give up on a so-called love one so soon, but black women have all the drama...lol
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By: Forrealls on 6/04/2010 8:15PM
I am in love with a wonderful black woman, but she can be something else at times. I would always rather go through the black struggle together, because she can always relate to what I am going through. My cousin was married to this "snow bunny" and he would try and tell her what he was going through, and she would always tell him... oh it's not like that... anymore...Marrying out your race is a joke to most other cultures. The black man in America is sick in his freaking head, they think that white woman on their shoulder is USDA Certified Beef, but in reality, they only have USDA Certified Commodity Cheese. All the black men that I know, date PWT... Poor White Trash, they have been used up...
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By: scy385 on 6/04/2010 8:51PM
If a white woman floats a black man's boat so be it. Who cares? I'm to busy floating my white man's boat to really notice.
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By: smittyt on 6/05/2010 1:09AM
LAME LAME COMMENT YAWN....I THINK I'LL GO TO BED NOW!!!
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By: Candy on 6/05/2010 7:15AM
You sound reeeeeeeeeeeal stupid. Do you want a metal for sleeping with a wet, dog smelling white man?
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By: ralph on 6/05/2010 12:08PM
Are you with your white man because you gave up on black men, or no black man wanted you?
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By: quitehonestly on 6/07/2010 8:28AM
no decent man ,white or other is going to be with you in any substantive capacity once ur ignorance and bad english begins to be more of an embarrassment than your booty can compensate for
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By: Vickiss on 6/04/2010 8:58PM
NO it's white supremacy. I mean why is this ( along with homosexuality) being so heavily promoted?
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By: smittyt on 6/05/2010 1:11AM
Now this is one damn good point!!!
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By: Sheila on 6/04/2010 10:09PM
I'm with "Shauna". I am sick of these articles. Why does BV continue to write about IR relationships? What is this all about? I could care less if a human being falls in love with another human being and get married! It's none of my business! However,BW and BM who do participate in "IR relationships" should only do so out of love and not self-hatred! BW, quit talking bad about BM. BM quit talking bad about BW, and live your lives, life is too short!
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