
The New York Times recently used new data indicating increased rates in interracial marriages to highlight the "plight" of single black women who can't find a good man.
In a nutshell, the Pew Research Center reports that 13 percent of Black men had a non-black spouse, compared to 6 percent of Black women. And in 2008, there was a significant increase in the number of Black men who married women who were not black.
The Times article's headline, "Black Women See Fewer Black Men at the Altar," makes it seem like the piece was blaming black female singlehood on men who choose to marry non-black women? Supposedly, black women don't make it to the altar because their men have already jumped the broom with Becky or Suzy.
Blaming the swirl action for single black women just isn't cutting it. Though more than ten percent of black men chose to marry a non-black woman, it clearly doesn't account for the majority. What about the 87 percent of black men who do marry black women? If I've got my math straight, 87 is greater than 13, so more black men have embraced their women than the ones who haven't.
This article reminds me of the recent 'Nightline' special, in which black men and women had a "face off." Fingers were pointed at each gender as they tried to explain away why many successful black women end up without a spouses.
We don't know the reason many black women will remain unmarried but, any argument or dialogue that has a tone of pitting black women and men (or black women and non-black women) against one another can be dangerous and create further rifts between us.
The Pew study reports interracial marriage between all groups is at a record high. 9 percent of Whites, 26 percent of Hispanics and 31 percent of Asians married a person of a different race in 2008.
Clearly, interracial marriage isn't something that's limited to black folks. Even more interesting was that Asians and Hispanics married interracially at even higher rates.
Where's the discussion or the 'Nightline' town hall meetings on the nearly half of American-born Asians who marry non-Asians?
Also, what we define as "swirl" action (i.e. a black and white couple) isn't as prevalent as we may have thought or been lead to believe. Though interracial marriage is on the rise, the pairing of a black and white mate is the least common combo, according to the study.
Though the Pew Research Center presents interesting data that reflects the changing trends in marriage, it's hard not to question how and why the Times chose to peg the article in such a way and why the impact of interracial relationships on other groups isn't looked at as well.
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Interracial Celebrity Couples
Sanaa Lathan and Steven Rifkund
This acting beauty and her music executive man have been dating on the low for months and rumor has it they recently became engaged.
Garcelle Beauvais and Mike Nilon
Actresss Garcelle Beauvais married CAA agent Mike Nilon in 2001. But the marriage might be on the rocks following reports that Beauvais caught Nilon cheating.
Zoe Saldana and Keith Britton
Ms. Saldana's been dating this fellow actor for 10 years -- long before she became a megastar with blockbuster hits like 'Star Trek XI' and 'Avatar.'
Iman and David Bowie
Somalian supermodel Iman and rock luminary David Bowie have been married 19 years and have one daughter, Alexandria Zahra -- they make an amazing power couple.
Halle Berry and Gabriel Aubry
Halle Berry and French-Canadian supermodel Gabriel Aubry are parents to Nahla Ariela, born March 16, 2008. They announced their split in May of 2010.
Paula Patton and Robin Thicke
This sexy couple met when he was 14 years old at a teen club in Los Angeles. They lived together for 11 years before marrying in 2005. Patton was featured nude on his 'Beautiful Girl' album and appears in two of his videos.
George Lucas and Mellody Hobson
Super producer George Lucas has since the 2007 Academy Awards, been out and about with Mellody Hobson, president of Ariel Capital Management, a billion dollar Chicago based investment fund.
Alfre Woodard and Roderick Spencer
Woodard's been married to her writer hubby for 27 years. They have two children, Mavis and Duncan.
Aisha Tyler and Jeff Tietjens
Aisha and Jeff met as undergrads at Dartmouth College and wed in 1992. Tietjens, an attorney, and actress Tyler both love each other and beer -- they're avid home brewers.
Thandie Newton and Ol Parker
Bi-racial British actress Thandie Newton married her writer/director/producer husband in 1998. The pair have two daughters, Ripley and Nico.


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By: Jill on 7/30/2010 5:57PM
I really do not understand America´s obsession with race...I´m from Holland and blog entries like this are just crazy. I never knew I was in a biracial (My mom is west indian and from the dutch antilles so I'm carribian and my hubby is part creool but he has a white skin) relationship until a American chatbuddy told me. There isn´t even a name for it in Holland. Here we are just 2 people in love. In america we would be a Biracial couple.
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By: Kimberly on 10/17/2010 4:29PM
I'm a black female who has been married to an Italian for 2 years now. Black women are not married because of other things not because of interracial marriages. I'm black, I'm married.
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By: ButterPHunny on 10/19/2010 10:04AM
I have a two fold feeling about this article
Im married to a white man ..
I didnt want to be ..
No black man wanted me ..
The(the ones in my sphere) all wanted women of a different race
The guys that pursued me were german, irish, spanish, italian, greek, etc .. not black at all
Im not light skinned and long haired ..
Im your typical african american female ..
No bells and whistles .. (its okay to laugh)
I dont blame anyone ..
I just dont like that when it was time for me to settle down I didnt have what I wanted, which was a black man like I wanted ..
I settled ..
I dont like it ..
I love black men - I have everything in common with black men - I feel comfortable with black men - we have a symbiosis that is just natural, etc.
I dont have that in my marriage
I dont like that I dont ..
But after 20 years and kids .. what the heck can I do about it ..
Sad, but true
Its no ones fault things are the way things are
Maybe its my fault - maybe I should have waited for a black man. Would one have ever came?
Im possible to know.
ButterPHunny
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By: Confused on 11/06/2010 5:01PM
Please try another race you might find you like it better than you thought. Trust and believe I love black women but sum of yall stuck on black but het your loss not mine, im gonna be happy regardless.
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