
For the 47% of adults over the age of 27 that are members of a least one social networking site, we must do better than those in a younger age bracket. That means that as tempting and as easy as it is to "track" the object of your affection, don't do it. What's both scary and comical is that many of us wont admit to our stalking tendencies. The truth is, your obsession with following your boo's every move on Facebook is just as unhealthy as hiding in the bushes at night. Because so many are in denial of their stalking tendencies, here are 10 ways to determine if you're social networking stalker:
1. You check his or her profile page more than four times a day.
You don't need to review status updates, profile pic changes and added friends every 20 minutes. If communication between the two people involved is at the level it should be, then you should already know what your partner is doing without caring about every single little detail that he or she chooses to post.
2. If you've Googled "How to retrieve a person's password."
You've already gotten them to log onto their profile on your computer, hoping 'Autoform' would save the password. Now you're upset it didn't work, and you're searching for how to crack the code. Passwords are created to protect privacy. If you're bold enough to go on a mission to get your partner's password, how about being bold enough to ask directly?
3. You've ever created an fake account to keep your stalking a secret.
Yes, you already have a Twitter account but decided create a duplicate one under a different alias so you can get all the information you are searching for without looking like you're doing it. So when you send him a message from @100real asking if he's dating someone, you know it's a setup. No matter what his answer is, your relationship will fail without trust, anyway.
4. You lied about a status update so that you could stalk them in real life.
You're on your couch on Friday night upset she's going to hang out with friends for a "Girls Night Out." Instead of letting her enjoy her freedom, you update your status "Watching the game with my boys," just to throw her off when you show up at the very same bar where she and her girls are grabbing a drink. Shame on you.
5. At any given moment you know the exact number of his or her friends/followers.
Not one new friend/follower gets by without you noticing. You know the exact date and time his two co-workers friended him on Facebook bringing his total friend count at the end of the week to 167.
6. You check the status updates, walls and pages of their friends.
Just to make sure what you are told is substantiated, you checked every family member that she said attended his mother's birthday party, making sure there are no details that she may have regretted to leave out. Yes, her aunt Suzie did bring her potato salad...
7. You've asked an unsuspecting friend to friend/follow the person you stalk.
Did you just ask your friend Keisha to follow your new boo on Twitter after he decided to make his page private? What's worse, are you calling Keisha every night for her to run down his day before you end yours?
8. You've download FB/Twitter/MySpace to your phone in so you can check his or her page on the go.
You've made sure your Ubertwitter and Facebook mobile have the most up-to-date version on your Blackberry or Iphone.
9. You've created Google alerts for your partner'sprofile names.
Now, whenever anyone mentions his/her name you receive an instant email to notify you. If that isn't stalking, we don't know what is.
10. You begin to start your sentences with "Well, his/her Facebook said..." and "On MySpace I saw that he/she.."
Get a grip.


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By: Sunshine on 5/31/2010 3:19AM
I have seen this happen to someone I love dearly who I am engaged to and currently live with. He broke up with this woman after a long term relationship. She follows him on all social networks & makes his life a living h*** when out in public with mutual friends, follows him to work, etc. She stalks his house late at night to see if he is at home & she will even get her friends to ask for friend's request on his social network pages who are set to private to see if they are saying anything to one another. He keeps telling her he is not interested in her anymore, to get a life, & that he doesn't regret breaking things off with her & still after a year, she continues on like a bad habit. She post all sorts of comments on his page acting like they are still together. We have had to change our cell numbers more than three times. He is trying to seek legal advice on the issue, too and he has or is deleting all of his social network pages cause of it getting out of control. We also have started moving our stuff out of state gradually and not even sure if that will stop this woman.
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By: omraee entertainment LLC. on 5/31/2010 3:54AM
I don't know about facebook as a user but desifering stalking for the one being stalked position.
I can tell that #1 as feater above in not nessarily a precursor but when some could have the page of another minamized and always accessed they could create stalking virual and security risks.
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By: me again on 5/31/2010 4:01AM
well, now they have the minus an plus on the right upper corner, so the only way to tell is that they sound like a comment, but then they give a website at the end, like this one a few comments up.:
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By: Sonic Pressure! on 5/31/2010 4:54AM
I'm proud to say that I answered no to everyone of those. I'm not a pathetic loser
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By: Tarissa George on 6/01/2010 7:03AM
I couldn't have said it any better, people are really losing their minds to try to "own" someone. Excellent perspective.
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By: Mayolivia Bush on 6/04/2010 5:54AM
Better check. I stumbled upon facebook something to be on facebook. Mother died, so they called to check on so they say, checked on facebook to find had wished happy birthday before mother died. Confronted, lied about call. Checked wal to wal found dialog. Such communication as "It means so much to me that you remembered by birthday. You are so hot, you better reply to me. Long after mother had died still checking on about aftermath of mother. Well now I know. I want be the last to know like most "got it together people". After all of this came out in the open, I'm the bad person for checking, although they lied about it but the reason was because "I knew you act like this". Didn't say would quit but i must Trust. Check on them, if there is nothing to hide them what the problem?
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