
For the 47% of adults over the age of 27 that are members of a least one social networking site, we must do better than those in a younger age bracket. That means that as tempting and as easy as it is to "track" the object of your affection, don't do it. What's both scary and comical is that many of us wont admit to our stalking tendencies. The truth is, your obsession with following your boo's every move on Facebook is just as unhealthy as hiding in the bushes at night. Because so many are in denial of their stalking tendencies, here are 10 ways to determine if you're social networking stalker:
1. You check his or her profile page more than four times a day.
You don't need to review status updates, profile pic changes and added friends every 20 minutes. If communication between the two people involved is at the level it should be, then you should already know what your partner is doing without caring about every single little detail that he or she chooses to post.
2. If you've Googled "How to retrieve a person's password."
You've already gotten them to log onto their profile on your computer, hoping 'Autoform' would save the password. Now you're upset it didn't work, and you're searching for how to crack the code. Passwords are created to protect privacy. If you're bold enough to go on a mission to get your partner's password, how about being bold enough to ask directly?
3. You've ever created an fake account to keep your stalking a secret.
Yes, you already have a Twitter account but decided create a duplicate one under a different alias so you can get all the information you are searching for without looking like you're doing it. So when you send him a message from @100real asking if he's dating someone, you know it's a setup. No matter what his answer is, your relationship will fail without trust, anyway.
4. You lied about a status update so that you could stalk them in real life.
You're on your couch on Friday night upset she's going to hang out with friends for a "Girls Night Out." Instead of letting her enjoy her freedom, you update your status "Watching the game with my boys," just to throw her off when you show up at the very same bar where she and her girls are grabbing a drink. Shame on you.
5. At any given moment you know the exact number of his or her friends/followers.
Not one new friend/follower gets by without you noticing. You know the exact date and time his two co-workers friended him on Facebook bringing his total friend count at the end of the week to 167.
6. You check the status updates, walls and pages of their friends.
Just to make sure what you are told is substantiated, you checked every family member that she said attended his mother's birthday party, making sure there are no details that she may have regretted to leave out. Yes, her aunt Suzie did bring her potato salad...
7. You've asked an unsuspecting friend to friend/follow the person you stalk.
Did you just ask your friend Keisha to follow your new boo on Twitter after he decided to make his page private? What's worse, are you calling Keisha every night for her to run down his day before you end yours?
8. You've download FB/Twitter/MySpace to your phone in so you can check his or her page on the go.
You've made sure your Ubertwitter and Facebook mobile have the most up-to-date version on your Blackberry or Iphone.
9. You've created Google alerts for your partner'sprofile names.
Now, whenever anyone mentions his/her name you receive an instant email to notify you. If that isn't stalking, we don't know what is.
10. You begin to start your sentences with "Well, his/her Facebook said..." and "On MySpace I saw that he/she.."
Get a grip.


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By: Ishutemdown on 5/27/2010 5:01PM
That's funny! I think that if you are doing more than 3 out of the list... you are probably a stalker. There's a difference between being in love and being obsessed with someone, and if you don't see anything wrong with any of those on that list... 10x's outta 10 the list was made for you. Now go to the mirror, look at yourself and say, "OMG, I'm a stalker". You'll feel a lot better.
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By: lovelybird23 on 5/27/2010 7:16PM
I don't think this is stalking. The thing no one wants to admit to is that they WANT TO BE STALKED (not literally but in a social networking way). think about it. The very lingo of social networking is stalkerish. poke...follow...etc. People update statuses because they WANT everyone to know their every move.It may be unhealthy but I think stalker is a bit too harsh. What is dumb is that people put to much of their business out on facebook especially the very ones who are doing dirt. And then they have nerve to get mad or call someone a stalker when they get caught up. I think everyone who is on any social networking site has at one time or another did one or more of the things on this list. Does that make us all stalkers? NO. nosey? YES. In my last relationship, me and my EX weren't even "friends" and it still caused us problems. He thought because we weren't friends and had no mutual friends that he was free to do and say what he wanted. Well he got caught up because he was tagged in a picture that was in the same album that one of my friends was tagged in (they werent in the same pic) and she saw it by clicking through the album to see all the picture and sure nuff there's my ex hugged up and kissin on another chick. There is a fine line and we've all crossed it! own up to it!
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By: Nada on 5/27/2010 7:43PM
It can be emotionally devastating to befriend an ex or a current love on any social nextworking site such as facebook. I think everyone needs their space even though it is all too tempting to befriend someone you greatly loathe. I have an ex who I still have feelings for but would no way in the world befriend him on facebool and I have told this to him. It is too much. Why should I have to pry to find out what he's doing for the good or the bad. If there is something he wants me to know, he'll tell me in privacy and not while the the whole world reads and listens. I dont want to be on the same accord with the rest of the world. Personal business is not social business!
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By: ANONYMOUS on 5/27/2010 10:04PM
u no this is too ironic, cuz someone just told me that sum girl was stalkin my page wonderin if im tawkin about her baby daddy smdh if yall not together..why look for me... i cud say wuteva i want on my status its not gonna do ne thing ...PEOPLE GET A LIFE...THERES MORE TO LIFE THAN JUST SCOPPIN FACE BOOK STATUS
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By: imsaynn on 5/28/2010 1:53AM
I know a girl who caught her husband on Face Book kissing a girl and she tried to kill herself...
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By: m0ng00se on 5/30/2010 4:34PM
What a STUPID article. Actually, a NON-ARTICLE!!
Oh, its Black Voices... no wonder.
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By: JEREMY on 8/05/2010 3:34AM
m0ng00se,YOU HAVE SERIOUSLY PISSED ME OFF WITH THIS IGNORANT COMMENT.You seem yo be saying that this is a stupid and frivoulous article because it appeared in BLACK VOICES,which implies that any issue important to Blacks is irrelevant.
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By: Victoria on 5/30/2010 5:57PM
I had an old high schoold chum who was doing this to me, she is going thru a rough time in her life, so I do sort of understand, she would go to my page and re-read e mails on Face Book between myself and aonther old school chum going back 3-4 months and comment to me about them! I was stummed, I had to talk to her about it and tried to make her see how strange this was, did she not have anything better to do than to read my old message's between be and another friend?
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By: Hostess on 5/30/2010 5:26PM
Notice the woman on her laptop Reminds me of This Girl i have class with looks at my friends page and all his friends everyday. So! I guess that makes her a stalker? Or a perv? For checking out guys. This artical is funny, lame at the same time.
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By: vigilante on 5/30/2010 8:11PM
I'm 95% sure that next to NO ONE does this. I mean not to this degree, or with this much dedication. This article was sort of useless, tbh.
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