
This past Sunday I missed Monique snagging her much deserved Golden Globe for best supporting actress . The following morning, however, I caught the highlights of the ceremony including the customary critiques of what actress wore what and how she wore it. Normally I turn the channel, but this time I just went with it. Seconds into it I remembered why I typically reach for the remote. First, this whole male testosterone thing I got going on never fails to interrupt my interest. Second, unless it's the portion of the program when they discuss best cleavage of the night or what form fitting dress Beyonce managed to slink herself into, I could really care less.
The other issue is this: all the incessant drivel about "amazing bodies" is simply nauseating. Whether it's the likes of Sandra Bullock, Jennifer Anniston or even Zoe Saldana, I'm tired of media types obsessing over the so slender you-can-bend-her body type. I'm not knocking the women. Sexy comes in all shapes and sizes. But I am concerned about the subtext, of the on air conversations, which outright rejects the shapely figure more commonly found among women of color.
We all have personal preferences. Most black men, like myself, prefer someone we can hold on to without fear of snapping a limb. She got bodacious bones in her body and enough cushion for the pushin'. This is what I'm saying. Who says her body isn't amazing? Hollywood and mainstream media can kiss her magnificent black @ss. After all, that's all they focus on anyway, when they do their token acknowledgements of women with other body types. They reduce women of color, more times than not, to isolated body parts - typically their backsides - as if all her body is good for is "smashing da homie".
Listen, mainstream media doesn't need to validate the beautiful bodies of women of color. Black men are on it. But, as a commentator, damn if I give them a pass. It needed to be said.

Mason Jamal writes about issues pertaining to the style, substance and sensibilities of men (and sometimes women). For more of his musings, you can visit www.MasonSays.com. You can also follow him on Twitter @masonsaysand him on Facebook.


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By: Goddess Intellect on 1/25/2010 10:28PM
curves are sexy...I stopped trying to understand Hollywood's BS a long time ago.
Being in the fashion/retail industry I never understood why designers felt that clothes looked better on lean no t&a bodies...most of the time what you see on a mannequin/model is pinned at the back...the whole fashion indutsry is denial...who makes these rules anyways...the average woman is a size 10..being a size 4 myself at family gatherings I feel like an outcast...."girl, you want seconds?"
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By: a on 1/30/2010 10:27PM
I enjoyed your answer to the "men without wedding rings question." My husband of 35 years has never even owned a wedding ring(or any other jewelry for that matter) and he has been up to nothing but GOOD and only with me for all those years. Although once or twice he has had to tell a persistent sister or two that I was his one and only BOO. LOL. Sleazy men or sleazy men with or without a wedding ring.
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By: Milah on 1/30/2010 11:19PM
Well, as a woman of color who is skinny I can't express to you how hurtful it is when men of color always make it seem as though something is "lacking". It makes me feel like I have to be with a man who doesn't look like me to be fully appreciated, and that's a pretty crappy feeling when you love Black men as much as I do. People get very sensitive about offending big girls, but it's always a good laugh to tell a skinny chic to "eat a sandwich". What gives?
P.S.- Skinny stays in style b/c 1. we look as good in clothes as out of them and 2. Skinny chics can make moves big girl won't even dream about! I'm just saying :)
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By: Huge_Bullbone on 2/18/2010 2:50PM
Milah, I love skinny women. Email me at huge_bullbone@yahoo.com so we can chat and so I can show you some much deserved love by way of the spoken, unbroken, not token word. Some dudes say "Nothing wants a bone but a dog". So I say "Bow, wow" to my skinny sistahs. Hollah!
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By: Greg Dragon on 2/18/2010 4:40PM
Hey Mason don't sleep on skinny women, it's the white mans best kept secret. The assumption by us bros is that we may "hit a bone" or get grossed out when we see the spine pushing out but skinny women have a few perks that trumps the normally deliciously thinck women.
1. Shelf Life - No worries on having (the talk) when she gets comfortable.
2. Sugar Walls run deep - ya I know you've heard this before.
3. As a man you can always toss her over your shoulder caveman style whenever she passes out drunk.
I used to be a subscriber to the thick experience, but once I went skinny, I am hooked. Zoe Saldana? fughedaboudit sign me up asap!
http://hobdragon.com
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