
Some say chivalry is dead, but in Nick Cannon's world, a "woman should be treated like a precious queen with her crown held way up high." He holds an umbrella for his beloved wife, Mariah Carey, when it rains and protects her from the mobbing paparazzi.
In the recent years, Cannon has evolved into far more than just the funny kid with the big smile on Nickelodeon. We have watched him grow from comedian and film star to executive producer of his own hit TV shows. We've also watched intrigued as he swept one of the world's greatest pop icons off of her feet, only to be labeled "Mr. Mariah Carey." It makes you wonder: what qualities does this young brother possess to win the affections of such a woman? More importantly, what can he impart to some of the men whose "sensitivity chip" seems to be missing?
Recently, BV on Love caught up with Cannon and dating expert Anna David to discuss his current project with AXE and what men need to know about keeping women happy. According to Cannon, it all starts with sensitivity.
How did you form a partnership with AXE and dating expert Anna David for 'Sensitive Subject,' which helps men learn to be more sensitive?
I think it was just a no-brainer, because I am a sensitive dude. I have always been in touch with my sensitive side, and I think they recognized that. I don't know what it is. I must have some type of magic mojo, because I'm no Brad Pitt or Denzel Washington, but I've had my luck with the ladies. So I think it has something to do with my sensitivity.
You say you have this magic mojo. What qualities do you possess that women have found so appealing?
One, obviously, I think it's the sense of humor. And then, you know, being able to be nurturing. And, honesty, more than anything, those three things combined together make a good guy.
Why do you think men have such a hard time showing a woman their sensitive side?
It's insecurity more than anything. I mean, guys are taught at a young age that they have to put up this bravado in order to be a man, that they have to be tough. Toughness is just another word for being uncomfortable. It's like they're just uncomfortable in their own skin.
Some guys, unlike you, find it hard to share that side of themselves. What steps would you suggest for a man struggling in that particular area?
I think he should just evaluate his feelings. In any relationship, you should understand the value of the person you're with and express it to them. If they truly mean the world to you, you should let them know. It's that simple. It doesn't just have to be verbally. You can show your woman with your actions. There's a bunch of stuff you can tap into -- a nice card, some flowers, all of that stuff goes a long way.
It's interesting that New York is noted as one of the most romantic cities in the AXE campaign to help men tap into their sensitive side. The city is particularly important in your own life. What is it about New York?
Yes, New York was the place where I proposed to my wife. New York is a romantic city. It's one of those places where you can take a ride through Central Park on a horse and carriage. You can look at the skyline from the top of a roof. There are great restaurants, there are so many great places that you can go to get in touch with your sensitive side, to show your woman a good time, and show her that you understand. For example, a dude can show his woman his cultured side by taking her to see a late-night Broadway show. That's always a great way to make your woman think, "Wow, he's really sensitive; he likes the theater."
Are there any experiences, from your own life, particularly from your marriage to Mariah, that have taught you how to truly tap into a woman's needs?
Just understanding. I've learned patience from my marriage more than anything. And being able to always support her and elevate her in that way. I was always taught that a woman should be treated like a precious queen with her crown held way up high.
How do you keep your wife's days filled with love and happiness?
I like to do the unexpected. I'll surprise her with a nice card, the flowers. When you love someone, it's just that simple. I always take the time out of my day to remind my wife just how much I love her.
On the flip side, there are times when a man has to show his hard side and defend his woman's honor. You had to do that when Eminem attacked Mariah. What's your take on that?
Always, when it's necessary, a man has to stand firm. As a man, you have to be able to be a protector. As long as you're on the same terms as your woman, you have to do whatever you have to do to hold it down.
Do you perceive that perhaps some women don't like sensitive guys?
I think women want a well-rounded dude. If a dude is hard all the time -- like what you hard at breakfast for? -- there is no point in waking up hard core; but if you have a dude who is sensitive all the time, in those times when you need him to be a little stern or you need him to hold you down or protect you, you don't want him to be sensitive in those moments. A woman needs someone who understands the full range of their emotions.
Mariah Through The Years
Mariah Through The Years:
For Mariah Carey, having more number one songs than any solo artist in America has been a credit to the company that this five-time Grammy winner has kept since making her music debut in 1990. From people behind the scenes like L.A. Reid and Jermaine Dupri to some of her past loves like Tommy Mottola, Derek Jeter and now husband Nick Cannon, each man has played a significant role in inspiring the music that has made this 39 year-old singer/songwriter famous. Blackvoices.com takes a look at the men who have inspired Mariah Carey over the years.
Tommy Mottola – Husband
No one is more responsible for Mariah Carey's success than former Columbia Records head Tommy Mottola. After receiving Carey's demo from artist Brenda K. Starr, for whom Carey sang backup, he signed her on the spot. While recording her 1990 debut, the two became romantically involved and tied the knot in a lavish ceremony in 1993. Just three short years later, they split, and a divorce was finalized in 1998.
Luther Vandross – Musical Collaborator
The five-octave singer was fortunate enough to be one of the few entertainers to record a duet with the late Luther Vandross. Their cover of Lionel Richie and Diana Ross's 'Endless Love' became Vandross' biggest pop hit. It was the second single released from his 'Songs' album and was also included on two Carey albums: 'Greatest Hits' in 2001 and 'The Ballads' in 2008.
Trey Lorenz – Backup Singer
In 1992, Carey performed an MTV 'Unplugged' special to show nonbelievers that she was not a studio singer. Her cover of the Jackson 5's 'I'll Be There' with her longtime backup singer Trey Lorenz was later released as a single and became a number-one hit in the United States. Lorenz was able to score a record deal from the duet, and Carey co-produced his debut. On July 7 of this year, the two performed the song at the Michael Jackson memorial, which was held at the Los Angeles Staples Center.
Jermaine Dupri – Producer
It's not a well-known fact that Jermaine Dupri has been working with Carey for nearly 15 years. In 1995, Carey worked with the So So Def Records founder on 'Always Be My Baby,' from her 'Daydream' album. It became the most successful record on U.S. radio that year. And though these two worked on several remixes together over the years, their magic came a decade later when J.D. produced four songs on 'The Emancipation of Mimi,' Carey's 10th studio album and most successful to date.
ODB – Musical Collaborator
Since rapping 'Me and Mariah go back like babies and pacifiers,' Ol' Dirty Bastard, the late Wu Tang Clan MC, helped solidify Carey in the world of hip-hop and R&B. The 1995 remix to 'Fantasy' became a number-one hit. The friendship between Carey and ODB lasted throughout the years. The songstress even met the rapper upon his release from jail in 2003.
Mase – Musical Collaborator
'Honey' was Carey's 12th number-one song. Before turning his life over to God and becoming a minster, Bad Boy rapper Mase appeared on the popular remix of the record, alongside the Lox and Diddy. The song, which also had its own video, was featured on Carey's 2003 remix compilations, aptly titled 'The Remixes.'
Derek Jeter – Alleged Beau
Shortly after divorcing husband Tommy Mottola in 1998, the five-time Grammy award winner met New York Yankee shortstop Derek Jeter at a Fresh Air Fund gala in New York. The couple connected over their interracial parents – black fathers and Irish mothers. The public romance ended short of the one-year mark. In an interview with Parade magazine, Carey said "It was the wrong time. ...Our two worlds were just too much for that moment."
Eminem – Alleged Beau
From 'Clown' to 'Obsessed,' Carey has documented her disdain for Detroit MC Eminem in her music. The 'Glitter' actress denies they ever slept together, but Slim Shady has consistently rapped that the two were intimate. The rapper, whose real name is Marshall Mathers, sent threats to Carey via the 2009 diss track 'The Warning,' which was directed at both Carey and her husband, Nick Cannon.
Nick Cannon – Husband
Nick Cannon, 28, dated singer-actress Christina Milian and was even engaged to Victoria's Secret model Selita Eubanks for five months before becoming Carey's second husband. In 2005, he convinced the Teen Choice Awards to let him present Carey's award for 'The Emancipation of Mimi.' Two years passed, and the couple was reunited in 2007. Their whirlwind romance resulted in a quickie wedding in 2008 at Carey's Bahamian estate, Windermere.
In marriage, does it become easier or more difficult to stay in touch with a woman's needs?
I think it's just one of those things about being in touch with yourself and being comfortable and secure with who you are. Everyone has emotions; no one is sensitive or hard core all the time. It's about just knowing yourself and knowing how to express yourself.
Ultimately, what do you hope that men can learn by your example?
Just to be comfortable with who they are instead of trying to be something they're not. I mean, we got too many dudes striving to be thugs, trying to emulate the people they see on TV and hear in music, instead of just being who they are. Ultimately, you have to be you at the end of the day.
From your perspective, what do all women want?
All women truly want to be comfortable. There are ways that you can make them comfortable. Whichever area a woman is uncomfortable in, if a man can provide comfort for her in that area, then you'll always win a woman over.

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By: ADMR on 10/10/2009 11:36AM
What WOMEN Want - What I Have Had & Have...What Else is New?
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By: Tiffany on 10/11/2009 10:19AM
I heard that he was a really nice guy and knew how to "lay it down" as well. He's right about the "well rounded guy" comment. A man needs to be secure enough to let you be you, hard enough to protect you and gentle enough to confort you. :) Hats off to Mr. & Mrs. Cannon!!
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By: Jamye on 10/11/2009 2:00PM
I agree Men have to be more intuned with a woman's needs and wants. I wish Mariah and Nick all the happiness in the world. Its so nice for a woman to find a kind, sensitive, carring, nuturing, honest man today. Many men are so full of it
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By: trina on 10/11/2009 2:38PM
i love a kind sensitive, carring, guy but everyone guy think he has be hard . i love a guy who will take the time to undetstand me . by at the same time stand up for me when it is time to whoever . i am a good women and for now i think i am just going to take a break . but i wish the both of them the best of luck ! be blessed put god first whatever you do . amen
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By: Kathy on 10/11/2009 4:13PM
I agree with everything that Nick Cannon said in this article. It's such a blessing to hear a young man speak about being romantic,sensitive,and firm.
Yes, a man should have a balance! Mr. Cannon you would be the perfect person to speak to high school students so that they understand what a real man is.
Nick,thank you for sharing, you really do know what women really want.
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By: Marvice on 10/11/2009 5:39PM
Now we know it's a big excuse that boys don't know how to grow up without a man in the home. I'm not saying it's better, but let some people tell it that's always the excuse for a jerk. Nick is right, learn to be yourself. There is a time to be sensitive and a time to stand your ground. God Bless him and may there marriage work.
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By: trina on 10/11/2009 8:49PM
how is he going to say what i women needs he is only 29 give me a break . she is gone over him tho to be old then him . he got her just where he wants her lol eating out his hand lol . she is my girl tho but she better open her eyes . that's a young brother and she is 11 years old then him . i do hope it is everythign she wants she is such a sweet girl . who really wants to be love so bad .
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By: kassandra johnson on 10/12/2009 12:36PM
you rock mr and mrs cannon,the union of both of ya is a great gift from God.love ya
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By: meek meek on 10/11/2009 11:24PM
I am proud of Nick. He takes care of his wife and secures her when they are out. He doesnt leave it up to a bodyguard or assistant to watch his wife, like Jay Z does Beyonce. Everytime Jay gets out he is five feet in front of Beyonce and leaves it up to his bodyguard to make sure she is safe. That is out of order. I don't care how much money you have it is your job to protect your home. Nick and Mariah need to remember that marriage takes a lot of work. A good one is worth fighting for, even when things get old. It is no one's business when you are fighting. Still come out holding hands, and kissing, and you can be mad when you get home, but don't let ppl in your business. I am glad he is a gentleman. My husband does the same things for me. Ppl that don't have that type of love , don't understand that and think it's strange.
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By: Esc8pee at DaLyfe.com on 10/13/2009 4:07PM
It's real cool to see some positive examples startin' to be recognized in the media of urban men bein' "real gentleman" and holdin' it down for their ladies and families.
And I agree that a good man knows that there is a time and a place for everything; lovin' + tenderness, compassion, patience + understanding, and when necessary bein' hard and a protector of his family.
In my experience it's all about balance. Ya' can never be 100% perfect at it, but always trying to achieve it is what matters most.
In my own life I'm tryin' to teach these same important qualities to my son. So when he's grown he can be part of the next generation of good, strong, urban men.
Strong men like Barack, Tavis Smyley, Prince, Nick Cannon, Cornel West, Stanley Burrell, James Todd Smith, etc. are really inspiring for me and I really think that they are representin' for the urban community.
Esc8pee at DaLyfe.com
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