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You are so stupid!!!. I'm sure she dumped you after the REAL you showed up!!! Dumb Azz

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This is the dumbest posting I've ever read. Reading this posting, I am sure that black woman wasn’t the only problem in the relationship. Some black men are famous for calling themselves a Real man or a Good man. Every time someone say that too me, I asks them, how was that determined, was it a contest? By whose standards are you considered a Good man or Real man. A Real man or a Good man does not have to say he is a Real man or a Good man. He leads by example. He ain’t bitching about his house, because it is in order. This includes his Wife. So Eric, if your house was in order you would not be bitching today. It wasn’t you wife, it was you!

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I was reading your comment and my heart sank because I am a beautiful black woman who was married to a black man. I was raised old school and still believes that the man is the head of the household and King of the castle and should be treated as such. I treated my ex-husband no different. I did everything for him, financially, emotionally in the bed room etc but he still cheated on me. The point I am making is that there are great black women out there who lives right and have it together and wants to love a black man or any man for that matter but have been broken down by black men. I could be bitter like you Eric but I am not instead I live and learn and go on with my life and pray that I will eventually meet a wonderful man to share my life and beliefs with. I am sorry that your marriage was broken but from my stand point it does not have to do with the color of the skin. I am black and when I divorced my husband he told me that he thought I would never leave him even if he continued to mis-treat me. I wish you the best in your new relationship and pray that you find what you are looking for. Another point I want to raise is that a lot of black men are so shallow that they look at outer beauty and booty and tits when they meet a woman and don't get to know that person for who they really are, and unfortunately when they realize what they have on their hands it's too late. Go back to the basics and to the foundation which for me is the Bible, God has to be a part of the marriage for it to work.

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Well, perhaps I did generalize somewhat, but nevertheless I stand by my initial commentary! Both, my family and my friends tried to warn me, but I always try to look for the good in an individual, but in this case they were unfortunately right! Poster Gayle's comments clearly demostrate, illustrate, and magnify my point! That's both (sadly) the usual, and typical mind set and attitude that I was referencing. It all comes down to "lessons learned"!

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I can agree with you to a certain point, but unfortunately in today's world race can and does potentially play a very important factor in several elements regarding marriage..i.e., the selection of the proper partner, the values of both, and the longevity of the life of said marriage. It's clear that you found my comments "unfavorable", but with you "not knowing" all the pertinent facts wherein you simply are out of line with your comments, which is "A Typical" for BV's!. My family, and friends had extreme concerns with me marrying a BW over that of a non-black woman, and I did as well! But, I thought that as a BM my loyalties should be on the home front. However, I had to consider other important factors as well. One has only to look at the marriage statistics these days to "clearly" see that black marriages are in rapid decline, and that the divorce rates between BM and BW are "sky rocketing" way out of control! I think that's a major cause of the failure of the black family. True, divorce as a whole regardless of race is on the rise, but between blacks it's literally off the charts! And, those are the real facts! Sadly, those wanting to get married today is even lower, which to me is a direct correlation into the realm of a general "lack of family values", in our communities! Most, would only prefer to be boyfriend/girlfriend, shack up, play house, or simply have a OOW baby with no marriage license to speak of! I'm not looking for that, that's why I opted for marriage instead! So, one simply begs to ask why? Based, on what I see and continue to see from other failed marriages (black people that I personally know), along with the general attitude of most BW I along with a growing segment of BM have concluded that BW simply put aren't the best choice for marriage...period! I unfortunately discovered that very fact "first hand" in a very short period of time with the "double standards", the selfishness, the pettiness, the constant argumentative state of mind, and in general most BW's apparent inability to be a part of a nurturing, cooperative, and mutually loving relationship!

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