My boyfriend and his friends took a boys' mini break over the Valentine's and Presidents' Day weekend. They do it every year. I don't mind if he spends time with his friends, but I spent the weekend at home alone. When he got back, I expected him to make it up to me by taking me on a skiing trip the following weekend, but he says he has too much work to catch up on. I feel like I come second to his relationship with his boys. Shouldn't I be the most important person in his life?

It sounds like you are in need of validation about your role and position in your relationship. It is time to sit down and express your feelings about this situation and to find out whether you two share the same values and beliefs. It seems that you perceive your boyfriend to be family, and you expect that he see you and treat you in the same way. Ask him about his expectations for the relationship to find out if you two see eye to eye. Let him know what your expectations are at this point in the relationship, and ask yourself whether they are irrational or unreasonable given the scope of the time you have spent getting to know each other. This is an opportunity to grow, and if you allow yourself to open up and express where you are coming from, as well as stand in his shoes to see the world through his eyes, you will grow closer.

One of my best friends is a ridiculous flirt. Whenever we go out without his girlfriend, he will flirt, pick up and get numbers of other girls. He has been with his girlfriend for five years, and I have grown to become good friends with her. I respect her, and I think she is a good person. She doesn't deserve to be treated like this behind her back. Lately, I have gotten really annoyed watching him do this to her, and I think I need to tell her what is going on. I don't want to ruin my friendship with him, but I can't stand by and watch this happen. Do you think I should tell her?

This is a sticky situation because you are now friends with both people in the relationship, therefore, it is easy to struggle to understand with whom your loyalties lie. It would be best to approach this with the understanding that neither one is your enemy. I would advise you to speak with your best friend first and let him know that you are uncomfortable with his behavior around other women, and that it is a sign that there is a problem with him and with his relationship. Let him know that as his friend, you only want the best for him, and chasing other women while he is in a relationship is not going to solve any of the issues that he is having at home. Ask him what is really going on in his relationship, and let him know that you want to help him make positive relationship choices. This is the time to step up and be a great best friend. Once you understand why he is behaving the way he is, you can decide whether this is someone who still shares the same values that you do when it comes to respecting others.