Luv Coach Q&A: Sexual Fantasies!

I've been having these really intense sexual fantasies, and when I share them with my boyfriend, he gets very excited and wants to try them. I want to experiment, but I'm scared that I will see him or he will see me in a very different light, and we might not like who we become. Should I keep my fantasies as just that, fantasies, or try them out in real life?

There is always room for sexual experimentation in a healthy relationship, so when the opportunity arrises to experience new forms of pleasure, you should feel free to explore. The key to healthy sexual exploration lies in establishing trust between both partners, and providing a safe, non judgmental space in which to connect. Begin by first sharing both of your fantasies with each other, this way you meet each other half way. Ask him which one of your fantasies he is comfortable trying out, and let him know which one of his fantasies you would like to try. Before you begin, pick a random safe word that you both agree on. This word will be used in the place of "stop". If at any point either of you want to stop the fantasy, use this safe word. Sexual fantasies and exploration can help you to connect and bring you closer together if they are done in a safe and healthy forum.

Sexy Lingerie for Love

The Sexpot
Sexpots love to be the center of attention especially in the boudoir where their naughty attitudes and risque lingerie go hand in hand. Their undergarments have a tendency of revealing more skin and less fabric. Shop for these friskykittens at Agent Provocateur, a lingerie boutique made especially for your sexy gal or guy. (Photo: Corbis)

The Fashionista/o
Looking good and feeling good extends to the fashionista's knickers. They care very little about comfort, and ease is not readily found in their vocab. They are however, concerned with the look of their lingerie. The fashionista loves trendy undergarments that will not only compliment their outer garments but will also match the mood they are in that day. Shop for your fickle fashion girl or guy at Henri Bendel. (Photo: Donn Thompson, Getty Images)

The Simpleton
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The Avant Garde
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The Intellectual
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The Artist
The Artist's use of imagination in their art studio is conveyed in their choice of lingerie. Bring forth the flowers, add more lace, and give them three different types of fabric on their lingerie and the Artists will be satisfied. Ahhhhhhh!!! Shop for your art lover at Kiki de Montparnasse. (Photo: Getty Images)

The Dominatrix
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The Demure
Sweet, sweet Demures. Every night with the Demures is like their wedding night. Not only do they want modest lingerie, but they crave class as well. Our shy Demures can shop at Only Hearts to relive or fulfill wedding night bliss. (Photo: Jupiter Images)

I secretly fantasize about having a threesome with another man. Should I share this information with my husband, or do our marriage vows mean sex can only be between the two of us?

Marriage vows are sacred, therefore choosing to bring another partner into the marriage bed can be exhilarating for some couples and disastrous for others. Before you decide to tell your husband you want to bring another man into the relationship, you might want to start by sharing this fantasy with him, and letting him know it is just a fantasy. His response to your fantasy will let you know if he is comfortable with the idea of having another man touch his wife. The other thing you need to be aware of is whether you are ready to bring a woman into your marriage bed. How comfortable are you with sharing your husband with another woman? Sexual fantasies are natural, but before you open the doors to your bedroom, make sure to set rules and boundaries that will maintain the trust in your marriage and allow the bond between husband and wife to remain intact.