Luv Coach Q&A: Cheaters!

A friend of mine knows a 64 year old man who has feelings for her. He is married and has been sending her emails and presents. Should she tell his wife?

It seems that cheaters will be cheaters no matter who they hurt in the process. In this situation your friend has to ask herself if she would want another woman to inform her of her husbands infidelity. The best way to keep the cheaters in check is to let the spouse know exactly what is going on. Send the wife an e-mail with his messages attached, and include pictures of the gifts he has sent, so she knows exactly what she is dealing with. If he tries to deny it, she can always look up those items on his credit card statement, or find a receipt. Once you have let her know, send him a message telling him he can no longer contact you.

I found pictures of my wife had taken of herself on her cell phone. The pics were text messaged back and forth with an old high school male friend. I was told the pictures were for my Christmas present, and the two of them were working on a surprise for his wife. Then she left her email screen on one day and there were several emails back and forth. The message read: "excited what we have done, if you want to stop I understand, I have him convinced the pictures were for him, I hope you like the pics I sent you, hope you are not too lonely traveling alone!" She said nothing was going on! I can't trust her at all. What should I do?

This is one of the most difficult situations you can experience in life. The betrayal of your wife, who is your best friend and confident and the disrespect of your trust is a life test. When we choose to marry, we are signing up for the life long journey of learning about ourselves and becoming whole through the heart, mind and eyes of another person. Your wife and her high school friend are obviously starting an affair. Whether they are just texting pictures and messages, or have become physically intimate, it is still an affair. Tell your wife you need to have a serious talk with her. Let her know that you know about the affair and the lying, and in a marriage those two things do not work. Find out the extent of the affair, why she felt the need to enter into it, and ask her if this is just a fling or if she wants to end her marriage. If she decides she made a mistake and wants to stay in the marriage with you, let her know that she needs to end her friendship with this man, and can no longer contact him. Call this man and let him know that you know about the affair and he can no longer contact your wife. You need to take the time to decide if you want to remain in this relationship and work through this situation with your wife. If you decide to stay, I suggest you and your wife seek couples coaching to work on the issues that led to this situation in the first place.

The Top 10 Celeb Quickie Marriages

10.) Dennis Rodman and Carmen Electra

In all honestly, Dennis Rodman getting married to anyone would have been a shocker but for these two to have found each other oddly enough seemed like a perfect match, given their marriage history (Prince and Madonna). These two are VH1 reality shows just waiting to happen.

9.) Halle Berry and Eric Benet

On the surface, this relationship of two beautiful people seemed too perfect... and it was. The couple, who were married in 2001, separated in 2003, due to... irreconcilable differences. Under the surface though, the rumors abounded that Benet was a rabid sex addict and the cat quickly got out the bag. Today, Halle's got her baby and her new beau and as for Eric... well he's still walking around barefoot.

8.) Treach and Pepa (Salt-N-Pepa)

Although the two have them had been linked for years, they never made it official until 1999. Of course just two years later, the pair broke it off, but managed to produce a daughter, Egypt, in their time together. Treach would go on to do some acting as well as a few "adult" films, while Pepa would go on to reunite with Salt and Spinderella, only to be constantly yelled at by Salt on their very own reality show. All's well that ends well.

7.) Jennifer Lopez and Chris Judd

Unfairly sandwiched between P. Diddy and Ben Affleck, former back-up dancer, Chris Judd had the distinct honor of being one of J.Lo's many love interests for all of a millisecond. Predictably, the marriage lasted less than a year,effectively ending in June 2002, around the same time J.Lo was seen hugging up with half of the soon-to-be ill-fated "Benifer," Ben Affleck.

6.) Eddie Murphy and Tracey Edmonds

This marriage was a wrap before it even had legs. The couple, who were faux-married on the New Year's day in Bora Bora, ended up splitting on the 16th of January. Lucky for them, it wasn't official or that divorce would have been something else. On the bright side, Eddie can now put a little more time into paying Mel B. some of that child support with all his stacks from quality films like 'The Adventures of Pluto Nash.'

5.) Janet Jackson and James DeBarge

In one of the most brief and forgettable marriages ever, Janet Jackson covertly eloped with one of the many Debarge's in 1984 only to break it off a year later in 1985 due to his constant drug use. And to think, the world could have been blessed with a possible clan of singing/dancing Jackson-Debarge babies managed by the jovial Joe Jackson. Oh well...

4.) R. Kelly and Aaliyah

Before he was trapped in the closet and years before he beat those child molestation charges like they owed him money, R. Kelly was briefly married to a 15-year-old Aaliyah in 1994. It was later reported that Aaliyah lied about being 18 and the marriage was annulled shortly thereafter. Coincidentally, Kelly is also known as the pied piper... SUSPECT!!!

3.) Gary Coleman and Shannon Price

Former Diff'rent Strokes star Gary Coleman had long been remembered for either his catchphrase on the show or through the many antics/unfortunate circumstances which have affected him following the show. So when word came out in August 2007, that he wed 5-month girlfriend, Shannon Price, the reaction was not unexpected. What?!?! Who?!?!?! Well low and behold, a year later, this lovely couple soon found themselves in Divorce Court with Gary pretty much saying that he was still a virgin and that she wasn't giving up the goods. Truth is, this couple may not be separated, but those sparks better start flying or Gary's going to blow a fuse.

2.) Mike Tyson and Robin Givens

She played violin, went to acting school, and was once accepted into Harvard Medical School. "Iron" Mike on the other hand, grew up in the streets, became known as one of the most brutal boxers in history, and even gnawed a man's ear off. To say that this wasn't a marriage built to last is an understatement.

1.) Michael Jackson and Lisa Marie Presley

Without a doubt, this had to be one of the most unexpected marriages in history. The king of pop, amidst his first child molestation ordeal, and the daughter of Elvis Presley were as mismatched as a square peg in a round hole. And if the marriage weren't enough, the two of them famously gave one of the most awkward and poorly acted kisses on stage at the 1994 MTV Music Awards, cementing yet another landmark in marvel that is Michael Jackson.