Luv Coach Q&A: Prenup Blues!

My fiancé and I have been together for four years and we are planning to wed in August. Last night he brought home a prenuptial agreement and asked me to sign it. This is the first I've heard of it, and I'm a little taken aback. I feel like it is an insurance policy to make sure that if it doesn't work out, he's safe. I'm completely committed to this marriage and I feel like with this prenuptial agreement he is not really committed to making this last forever. Should I sign it?

It is understandable that you would have these feelings towards signing a prenuptial agreement, especially since your fiancé never discussed it with you in the past. Marriage contracts and prenuptial agreements can take the romance out of your dream wedding if you don't approach them properly. Take the time to speak to your fiancé and let him know your thoughts, worries, and feelings about entering into a marriage with a contract that allows for a back door to be created. Make sure that you are both committed to marriage, and are entering into this union with the same intention of being partners for life. Don't let the business side of marriage dampen your love, but rather use it as a means to increase intimacy. If he still wants you to sign a prenuptial, you should be thoroughly aware of what it is, and what it says. "A prenuptial agreement is a contract entered into by two people prior to marriage or civil union. The content of a prenuptial agreement can vary widely, but commonly includes provisions for the division of property should the couple divorce and any rights to spousal support during or after the dissolution of marriage." A prenuptial agreement is meant to safeguard ones assets in the event that things do not work out, but it is also to make sure that you are well cared for after the fact. Have a lawyer look over the contract and make sure that you agree to all the terms. If there is anything that doesn't work for you, then let your partner know, and adjust the contract accordingly.

I only knew my Husband for 7 months and we decided to get married. (Keep in mind within those 7 months we only went out 3 times) Well anyhow, we started dating. The first two weeks we dated, the next two weeks we got engaged, the next two weeks we go and get married through the court house. We have had our ups and downs for two months. Last Saturday my husband and my cousin had to run to Mexico for a doctor's appointment for my cousin. Well long story short, My Husband gets wasted up there, gets thrown in jail, ponds his wedding ring "supposedly" to pay his beer tab off, lost his cell phone, shirt he was wearing, shoe laces, and social security card. I decided that enough is enough so I am divorcing him. He has held me hostage inside the house many of times, he is very, very jealous. I wasn't allowed to go anywhere with my friends, and he lies all the time. I suspect he did cheat on me in Mexico because I do know for sure they were at a Strip Bar. Please help me and let me know what you think about me going through with the divorce.

It sounds like you have made a string of poor decisions based on very little information and a total lack of conscious behavior. Marriage is a serious commitment and should never be rushed into without knowing who you are and who your partner is, what you both want, and where you are both going in life. It takes time to get to know someone and to decide if that person is not only right for you, but the person you believe is worthy of being your husband. Holding you hostage in your own home, controlling who you see and where you go, and lying are all signs of an abusive relationship. You have come to the right decision in choosing to divorce him, and I know you will find the strength within you to go through with it. Now is the time to call on friends and family for love and support as you work through this experience. I want to recommend that you hire a relationship coach or therapist to help you understand how you got into this situation in the first place and how to move forward so that you can make positive life choices in the future.

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Rebecca Brody is a Relationship Coach in New York City. She is the creator of She Caught the Crazy! If you need relationship advice or want to work with Coach Brody contact Brody@TheLuvCoach.com or go to www.TheLuvCoach.com. For more crazy stories visit www.SheCaughtTheCrazy.com

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