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By Rebecca Brody, Certified Empowerment Coach
Q: How common is the female orgasm, and how can I help my girlfriend to achieve it?
A: The female orgasm is not uncommon and can be reached by anyone. For women climax is both a physical and emotional release. One way to reach orgasm is to let go of control and let your mind and body feel the sensations and emotions that come with climax. The best method to help your girlfriend to reach orgasm is to create a comfortable and romantic environment, and to take things slow. First you want to get her aroused by kissing, touching, and hugging. The key to the female orgasm is the clitoris, the bulb on the exterior of the vagina. The clitoris, like the penis, has a concentration of nerve endings which are the key to reaching climax. This highly sensitive area must be stimulated if she is going to reach orgasm. Ask her how she likes to be touched. Let her be the boss of your sex sessions, and pay close attention to how she stimulates herself. Ask her what she wants you to do to her, and which sexual positions or caresses feel the best for her. Paying close attention to your partner and reading her responses to your touch will allow you to pleasure her in new ways, and will deepen the connection between you.
Q: I am 19 years old. I know I may be young but everyone needs love. I just feel that it is impossible for me to find love. All I have been running into are jerks. I think maybe I fall too fast for the game, and I get played. But I believe that I am a nice person with a great personality. I'm lonely and lost. I just want to share part of me with someone who is willing to do the same, but I am discouraged that I will never find that. Can you help me?
A: Everyone should have love in their life, but you need to be aware of when you are coming from a place of need or lack. When you approach the world with this great need, you ignore the warning signs and red flags that may appear along the way, and simply take what ever you can get in order to fill that need. This is what drives people to fall into relationships that do not work for them, and something is telling me that you may not ready to be in a relationship. Take the time now to learn who you are, and what you want from a relationship. Be specific about what kind of partner will work best with you and for you. What are the nagging needs that you are trying to fill with the love of someone else? This is the time to figure out how to fill those needs by looking within you, not outside of yourself. You must first know yourself and love yourself, so you can decide who you want to give your love to, and so you can see who is ready to love you.
Rebecca Brody is currently a Life Empowerment coach in New York City. Her area of expertise is in relationship coaching. She is a graduate of Vassar and Ipec, and has trained with the Relationship Coaching Institute. She is ICF certified, and has been studying social interaction, relationships and coupling for over a decade. To work with Coach Brody contact Brody@theluvcoach.com, or go to www.theluvcoach.com.
Sexy Lingerie for Love
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The Sexpot
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The Fashionista/o
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The Simpleton
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The Avant Garde
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The Intellectual
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The Artist
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The Dominatrix
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The Demure
Sweet, sweet Demures. Every night with the Demures is like their wedding night. Not only do they want modest lingerie, but they crave class as well. Our shy Demures can shop at Only Hearts to relive or fulfill wedding night bliss. (Photo: Jupiter Images)
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By: Cecil Jones on 4/17/2008 10:15PM
The Female Orgasm? How did women get their own version of pleasure? Sure our parts are different, but the game is the same. Listen to any Old school record and it will tell you how to do it. Turn off the lights all night long. Take you time until you reach a higher ground. Personally, I think an orgasm is about communication and unselfishness. Miss Jackson has it right. What have you done for me lately? You both bring something special to the Humpty dance. Oh I went there, without saying it. You've got to understand the words.
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By: I Have No Problems on 4/18/2008 7:51AM
I have no problems with ORGASIMS when being intimate with my long-time 8 year relationship with my boyfriend! My boyfriend knows what, where, and how to get me arouse easily. I have not one, but MULTIPLE ORGASIMS. I'm not trying to brag, I'm just keeping it real! By me having these multiple orgasms all the time, there is an added BONUS! The SUPRISE is, I get the WHOLE SHEETS WET. I feel that I have this gift and my boyfriend ENJOYS EVERY MINUTE! HE and MYSELF ARE PLEASED, SATISFIED AND NEVER HAD ANY COMPLAINTS!
To answer the question above;
"Which type of women are you? I am the "SEX POT"! I love to dress up in STELLETOES, HIGH THIGH STOCKINGS, HIGH-HEEL BOOTS, GARTERS, THE WHOLE NINE! I love to PERFORM and DANCE FOR MY MAN with a STRIP TEASE and go from there! We both always have something to give and come up with different things to keep the "FIRE" in our relationship!
I believe, that all women can have Orgasms. Their are things that woman can do first to arouse themselves and their are things that their boyfriend can try to help to get their women get to that point. You both just got to work at it, don't give up and get frustrated!
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By: I'm Every Woman on 4/18/2008 10:06AM
Satisfying and electrifying sex, including explosive orgasms start with the largest sexual organ you have. Your brain.
Some of the best intimate moments I've shared w/my husband started somewhere other than the bedroom. Maybe he started our Saturday by cooking breakfast while allowing me to sleep in, or by watching a
girlie film w/me w/out griping about it or maybe offering to give me a back massage, while lightly kissing that spot on the back of my neck (you know - the one that makes you quiver) before a shower. Those are all relatively small things that may not appear to be much, but it's simply
called foreplay. Once a woman is happy anything can, and most likely will happen...including her ability to reach her highest sexual peak.
Men are simple creatures and most of the time are led by ego-stroking and the ultimate in visuals. Flirting w/him and assuring him he's the best in every way, coupled w/what he sees as the sexiest in bedroom attire, will have him desiring to do whatever it is you want or need.
If I had to pick what type of woman I am, I'd have to say all of them, at some point or another. It just depends on what the theme is that day.
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By: ital on 4/18/2008 1:26PM
first you have to do what your parents told you to do friends before lovers makes it easy for a relationship its like a jump start im not saying go hit all your friends up for sex what im saying if you are interested in some one try being their friend it will be easy to let them explore your womanhood as you would like him to do or as you direct him which is neccessary
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By: Purple Rain on 4/19/2008 1:37AM
Forget that nonsense of friends before lovers. You might not become lovers if you take on that path. Problem is is that women don't want to be viewed as ho's if they give it up too soon so they tense up during these intimate moments which makes it difficult for them to orgasm. When they're relax with a special man, they cum like a flowing river...Baby I'm A Star
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By: Kuwana Buwana on 4/19/2008 2:48PM
my ho like her booty smacked you no whut im sayin.at how she get her freek on you no whut im sayin.sheeeeet
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By: Dionne on 4/26/2008 1:04PM
I just need a freaking divorce. I used to feel and look like the women in the lingerie photos. The key for me is to not let the "relationship" get too familiar. I am one of those that likes a lot to remain a mystery, so that S&*t ain't for boring married men that totally change to old a$$ stinking farts after marriage.
The game is cool, you just have to know how to play it. And I think its time I got back to it cause this marriage mess is for other folks...
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By: robert smyrna on 4/27/2008 12:11PM
Men and women are not wired the same, that's no secret. There is a direct line between a womens heart and her vagina, (aka-love canal). If she is feeling good about herself and your relationship the river will flow. Explore her and try new things, ask her what she like and go for it. If she's not reaching her orgasm try a different techniqe, but never throw in the towel.
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By: Diablo Bishop on 4/26/2008 4:14PM
I seriously think that women have to learn their men before judging the fact that we don`t understand how to get that special noyice if you know what i mean. If more women were to think about the whole break up to make up concept its all screwed up. They like to get theirs get you mad so that they don`t have to fufill their end of the bargin. still with me here? then they expect men to just arrise to the occassion because they want it no no no leprechaun all wrong words of the wise " Stop teasing without pleasing " it will kill your partners sex drive beleive me been there done that.
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By: robert smyrna on 4/27/2008 12:05PM
just ask her what she like, do it. Ask her what is her turn off, and never do that. make her feel good and the river of orgasm will drown you.
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