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It's that time of the year, when men get together to scream and shout at the TV, while gorging themselves on chicken wings and fattening their beer guts. Sounds sexy doesn't it? Well it can be, if your as creative as the newly engaged Ms. Christie from New York, who decided to add a feminine touch to a day that has always been male dominated. The new party of the year is (drum roll please)... Super Bowl Engagement Party!

To all the women who don't know which teams are playing in the big game and to those who don't really care, there is a new way to make this day fun for everyone. Men love to watch other men run, throw, tackle, dodge and score, while women love to watch other women open gifts, compliment sparkly rings, plan weddings and score the love of their life. Why not combine the two best days of the year into one glorious fiesta?

I have a feeling women are already convinced, so let me appeal to the men out there. Imagine you show up at a Super Bowl party and instead of just chips and dip and a keg of beer, you find crab puff pastries and prosecco with raspberries. While you lounge on the couch in front of the big game, popping chocolate covered strawberries into your mouth, your lady love is holding court and enjoying being the center of attention. Half-time is no longer just a bathroom break, but a time to play games, score fun prizes, and celebrate the bride and groom to be. For a special treat that everyone will enjoy, try Russian Gummy shots:
2 bags of gummy bears (regular, not sour)
1 bottle of vodka
Shot glasses

Mix ingredients in a bowl, cover and let sit overnight. Spoon the inflated bears into shot glasses and serve as a yummy, gummy treat to toast your nuptials and celebrate your win! Here's to you, Ms. Christie, for realizing that being a partner means creating an experience that will be great for both you and your love. Happy Super Bowl Engagement Party!

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I have been dating a man on and off for five and a half years. Whenever he seems to get close to me, he starts looking for another woman to date orhave sex with. We spent a wonderful weekend together, and he has called me several times a day for the last month. Then, all of a sudden, he says that I am trying to control him, and I need to back off. He said he would call me and that is the way it will be. I am having problems understanding this. Help!


-- Jett

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My girlfriend has issues. She gets upset every time I go out to a strip club with my friends. I try to tell her it's just entertainment, but there's always an argument when I get home. Why can't she just relax about it?

-- Myron

So here's the deal: Every couple has their own version of what's known in broadcast media as "standards and practices." They guide the moral and ethical decisions that are made within a relationship. Ideally, both parties are in agreement on what they'll tolerate in terms of edgy content, but that's not always the case. Specifically, the entertainment value of disrobed women, seductively gyrating in stilettos for a night's pay, seems to be a point of contention for a lot couples.

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Do you want to create a romantic Valentine's Day night for your honey this year, but money problems are making those plans a not-so-sweet taboo? You could be in luck -- Black Voices is coming to the rescue of one hopeless romantic. In celebration of sensual singer Sade's new album 'Soldier of Love' and, of course, Valentine's Day, Black Voices and Sony are teaming up to give away a box set of Sade's albums, including her newest release, and a $150 VISA gift card that can be used for a dinner for two.

All you have to do is leave a comment by February 9th letting us know, in 250 words or less, why you and your significant other deserve a sexy, Sade-inspired night out on BV's dime. Entries will be judged on their creativity and originality! The lucky lover will be notified on the 10th, so watch your inboxes. Click here for the official rules.

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My husband and I have been married for a year and are expecting our first child in March. Before we got married, he broke up with me and started dealing with another woman. After a week, he came back and we got married. Two months later, I found out that he was speaking to another woman through e-mails and text messages. He told her he regretted marrying me and that he loved her. He apologized to me, so I forgave him. Since then, he has done the same thing numerous times with few different women. The last incident was over the holidays, when we were out of town visiting his family. I went through his phone and saw that he had been messaging the same woman he was speaking to the week we were broken up. She was in the same area visiting her family. When I confronted him, he again apologized and told me he loved me and that it won't happen again. After this last incident, he agreed to go to a marriage counselor, but he has yet to set up an appointment or to even look into where we can go and what our insurance will cover. I can't trust him. I keep thinking about leaving him, but I want to make things work, and I want my daughter to have her father in her life. I'm just at a loss of what to do and I don't know how much longer I can go on.

-- Andrea

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I have a male co-worker who is married -- happily married from what he says. But I notice he hardly wears his wedding band. I asked him about it and he said he's not a fan of jewelry. I have no reason to suspect he's not being faithful to his wife but as a single women I'm always disturbed by married men who don't wear their band. What are your thoughts on this?

- Cheryl


What's in the heart and mind should be all that matters. But it's not that easy. For many, especially women, it's also about what's on the finger. The wedding band is symbolic of the covenant between husband and wife. Without it, symbolism is quickly replaced by suspicion. Warranted or not, people think the worse of a guy going hando-commando. To single women, he represents an untagged married member of the male species roaming freely and unmonitored while preying on the unsuspecting. He's the character, that rears his head in every Tyler Perry screenplay, that women can't despise fast enough or hard enough.

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Hey Lovaaaaaas -- our patron saint, Sade Adu has returned to us...and not a moment too soon. Sade debuted her first album, 'Diamond Life,' 25 years ago and sounds as strong and heartfelt (and looks as beautiful) as ever.

BV on Love is serving you up a special treat -- exclusive behind-the-scenes footage with one of the most iconic music figures alive today. See Sade -- who rarely gives interviews -- up close and personal as she and her band, bassist Paul Denman, guitarist/sax player Stuart Matthewman, and keyboardist Andrew Hale, talk about their creative process. There's also the making-of the 'Soldier of Love,' video, directed by Sophie Mueller and choreographed by Fatima Robinson.

'Soldier of Love' the album drops Feb. 8, 2010. Stay tuned to BV on Love and find out how you can win a special Sade Valentine's Day package for two!

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